Am so confused and you guys are not helping out at all!!
I need to know yr best answers!Am in a very difficult situation and all i need is your help,not judging me!!
I have my boyfrend and there is another guy my parents want me to meet.I don't want to hurt anybody!Most importantly i don't want to hurt my bf. But i have to take the right decision. Maybe my parents know best.And this is what am trying to do here..Check all the possibilities out before splitting up with my boyfriend. Please read my 2 previous questions for your guidance before answering.
I WOULD APPRECIATE YR HELP!!!AM DESPARATE!! I FEEL SO MISERABLE AT THE MOMENT! :(
2006-12-10 20:46:55 · 17 answers · asked by Soulla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you meet that new guy, you will please your parents.. Meet him ! there's nothing wrong with that...
you will get 2 results
1) you will find him not perfect for you & that there's something wrong with him.. So you can explain those stuff to your parents..
OR
2) you will be interested in him & find him better than your boy friend..
In all cases i think u should meet that new person... You wont lose anything if u meet him... But you may lose meeting the "future husband" if you just ignore him
2006-12-10 20:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what youre two previous questions are. If your parents want you to have an arranged marriage, I would know what you're talking about 'cos my parents are planning the same for me. I'm so sorry to hear that you have a boyfriend in the midst of everything. I'm sure it's very hard for you to decide on something 'cos I had a friend who went thru' the same problem and I watched her suffer. However, she has bounced back now.
2006-12-10 21:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a boyfriend and you want to be with him, do NOT meet this other guy.
Tell your parents that you are happy with your current boyfriend.
I do not agree with meeting him behind your boyfriends back. That is disrespectful and he would be so hurt if he found out.
If you really cared for him, you would not do that.
So what if he doesn't have as much money or as much status as you or your family. There is much more to a person than that shallow stuff.
Hope you make the right choice.
and by the way. You can't please everyone all the time. You can't do something and expect everyone to be happy with your decision.
But it's better your parents are disappointed than hurting your boyfriend who LOVES you!!!!! It would be like BETRAYING him.
2006-12-10 20:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ambience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i didn't read ur two previous ques... i don't know where they r... can u mail them to me... i would like to help. i guess u r like me... even i feel miserable when the situation comes to hurt somebody... well according to what i have read here.. i would advice u to talk things over... let ur parents and ur bf know ur situation. if ur parents are forcing u to meet the other guy.. then meet him.. get to know him... there is nothing wrong in making knew friends. then decide if ur bf is worth fighting for. but face it ..finally someone will get hurt. just remember that u shouldn't get hurt and lose the things u love for someone else.... i am pretty sure that ur parents will understand u wen u come clean....
2006-12-10 20:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents cared about what you wanted, then they wouldn't make you feel so miserable. But it seems like you've already decided, because you think your parents know best. It's about what YOU want, nobody else can make that decision for you. I really hope everything works out for the best.
2006-12-10 20:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by lone wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, agree to a date with your parent's man in a neutral setting. Your BF doesn't need to know. For all you know this guys parents are doing the fix up thing to him too. If it doesn't work out no harm no foul, tell your parents he's rude or obnoxious or something and zip back to your gentleman in waiting. It's not cheating if you have no intentions of doing dirty things with him.
2006-12-10 20:54:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok - Not to much of a problem here.
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Need to do two things here to start with.
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Tell your boyfriend your parents want you to meet another boy.
Dont split up with your boyfriend just yet - unless your relationship is rocky -
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When you meet the boy that your parents want you to meet - Tell him you already have a boyfriend.
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Problem solved
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2006-12-10 20:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r the only one who can decide who is best for u. Think wisely before u dump ur bf for the guy ur parents got u, u mite regret later if u dump ur bf and find the one ur parents choice for u. So think careful....
2006-12-10 21:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by yordanos a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is waste of time being discussing sensitive issues here. Better speak with your parents. Do not delay. Invite your bf to your home and start conversation with your parents. You should first know what your parents expect from you.
2006-12-10 20:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by KK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love your boyfriend and there's no possible way that you could love the other man, then better choose and fight for your boyfriend cause you can never be happy with the other man..you'll just suffer whole your life and then you might even blame your parents afterward...now better take your decision and be ready for the consequences it might bring...your happiness is in your hands...you know what best for you...
2006-12-10 20:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by krung2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋