I met my girlfriend last year she just became 20 then, I just learned that before me she had 19 sex partners, from which only 3 were boyfriends( kind of serious). One of them she did not even know, that guy pick her up and they end up in the hotel room after couple of hours. She is saying that most of that happend when she was 17, 18. Also she sleeped whith her ex's best friend (I mean when they were still dating) but the other thing about her is that she is so nice and kind and from her behaviour I really can not belive that it is true, it is like she is speaking about other person, we are almost 1,5 years together. Please tell me, should I stay with her, or person who did such a staff can not change so quickly
Is she a slut ??? I am 17 and she is my first girlfriend i do not have much exper. so please be serious I really need some help with this Thank you
2006-12-10 20:37:29 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people can change... it sounds like she's regrets her past.
2006-12-10 20:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing you need to know your still a teenager lust is something else these days the body wants what it wants but still if it sounds like it is someone else when she speakes about these things maybe she regrets them i mean nobody's perfect if you were older and she was not your first girlfriend you would understand you should be glad she's with you and dont let her expirence scare you that just means she can please you better now you dont want a girl that you have to teach how to suck you off and even when you teach her she still drags her teeth huh ! (ouch) is she a whore is up to you to decide just dont let your imgaination carry you off and dont think about stupid stuff for long or you could get lost in such nonsence some people cheat but that does not mean that they dont regret it and wish they can take it back. take it from me im 23 years old im a guy and i've been around the block more than a FEW times but i never cheated but when i was younger like around your age i was too senative to my feelings just try to take it slow and remeber to breath and if you have a problem just come out and talk to her about it in a calm and cool way if she cant handel that thats her problem and if she starts pulling away(not showing you the strong love that was thier in the beginning) then ask her if she's getting tired of you. man o man if i could take all the knowledge i have now and give it to my self as a younger teen i would save my self a lot of heart break but then i would not be with the woman im with now just remeber she's not a machine that has no heart she and all females are just like you even if they ACT like a bad@ss.
2006-12-10 21:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by soki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's spent the last year and half with you and you trust her and know all about her then what's the problem with moving your thoughts into the future? This is very tough to understand though cuz youre only 17 which means that you have been with her whilst being sooo young involved. Of course people go thru different life changes when one road theyve taken is the wrong one. Good for her being honest with you and herself to stay on a good life path. Youre both still very young and learning about life and how to deal with many hills and valleys in life. Take it one day at a time and enjoy the present and look forward into the future. Peace.
2006-12-10 20:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may be in for a rocky ride... first get test for AIDS if you have not done so already. St down and ask het how serious she is about your relationship. As such a young age sex becomes an obsession with many young people. Some do stop, others never get enough.
If she cheats, accept your loss and break away and never look back.
2006-12-10 20:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by DieWaarheid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing, a practical issue. I know you have been together a while, but with that many previous partners, I'd get screened for STDs, and have her do the same, no matter what.
As far as where to go from here, it all comes down to trust. If you think she's being monogamous and there hasn't been any reason to suspect she hasn't been since you two have been together, then her past seems to be in the past and not an issue.
If you have actual reason to doubt her in your current relationship, then that's different and something you need to discuss with her.
2006-12-10 20:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Cruel Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, but the other poster is right - it just takes time. And sometimes, the trust simply doesn't come back at all, and in that case, you may just have to end the relationship. I only say this because I have been through the same thing. And for me, even though I really wanted to trust her again, I just never really could, and we ended up splitting up. It is possible to do it though - I have known some people who got past it. I wish you the best of luck.
2016-05-23 04:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are still seventeen right? Better wait a little while longer to get serious anyway, u can never go into a relationship and be happy if you cannot let go of the past. Watch her behavior towards u. People make mistakes and often learn from them so give her a chance if you really like her. Good luck!!
2006-12-10 20:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're still young, I say give her a go if you can handle the truth.. If in the end you can't, at least you tried to work things out and you know that next time you have a girlfriend tell her that you're not interested in knowing the full details of her past... some things are best kept unknown
2006-12-10 20:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat always a cheat and a dirty slut. In a couple of years you will be sick at yourself for ever giving her the time of day. Enjoy the sex as she must be pretty good by now but detach yourself emotionally from her. Cheat on her a few times, spread your seed young man.
2006-12-10 21:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you 17 and shes 20. Go you. but seriously you cant change her past. and you cant really be mad or upset with her about it. it was before she had met you. She's obviously changed if you've been together for 1.5 years together.
Before I met my boyfriend he had racked up at least 100 girls. to my like 7. at first I was uncomfortable with the idea of him with another girl. then I liked hearing how awful he'd treat some girls because he treated me so much better.
try to look at the possitive. not the negative.
2006-12-10 20:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her checked for STD's.
She could have changed, and it seems courageous of her to be so honest with you about her past. It shows trust too. So maybe it's not such a bad thing, provided she's changed.
2006-12-10 20:40:26 · answer #11 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋