Here's the Back Ground. She and I work at place w/ a lot of guys; a lot of guys who are ALWAYS HITTING ON HER EVERYDAY. But she and I really seemed to hit it off and became pretty close. So, I asked her if she wanted to hangout outside of work. I was a little surprised but she agreed and as far as I know I am the only guy she's agreed to hungout w/ outside of work. So, a few days go by and some flirting and then I decided to ask her for a real date. She became very shy and embarressed and told me that she can't date men from our work. Saying something about the reason being how many men are around us.
PLUS! -- She told me that she doesn't go out on dates anymore and she finds it hard to trust men.
I'm okay w/ her not going on the date w/ me, but I'd like to know if this was her just being nice or if this sounds like a real reason girls will turn down a guy?
2006-12-10 20:26:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a real reason. trust me. its real. or else why would she even hang out with you in the first place right? relax she's not rejecting you just because shes trying to be "nice".
2006-12-10 20:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by fefe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that this young lady likes you as a co-worker/friend but that, unfortunately for you mainly, she is not actually attracted to you in a romantic or sexual way.
That being said, it doesn`t mean that she won`t be interested to date you in the future.
Why don`t you ask her discreetly (via e-mail maybe?) if she would be interested in you or more attracted to you if you weren`t co-workers? And if so, would working for a different department/section within the same company help this delicate situation at all?
I wouldn`t buy her a huge bunch of flowers just yet ( don`t make it too obvious that you fancy her, know what I mean?) but I don`t see any harm in pursuing her in a sweet, gentle way... Most women love that. I know I do!
You sound like a really nice guy. If things don`t work out, please do not hesitate to give me a call!
(P.S. I`ve got this uneasy feeling that the girl of your dreams might be doing some flirting with some if not all the other guys from your office behind your back, even though you claim that as far as you know, you are the only guy she has agreed to hang out with outside of work. How can you be so sure? Don`t believe everything she tells you and/or what you hear through the grapevine! Word of warning: women can be very deceiving creatures and beware of office politics!!!)
2006-12-10 21:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thought you were different and weren't just trying to get down her pants. She felt safe that you were just enjoying her company. Imagine - she doesn't really get to have friends at work, the way the other guys do. She knows that most of her coworkers have alterior motives. Now she thinks that you do as well. Back off and try to reinstate the friendship. She's smart to not date people at work.
2016-05-23 04:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a real reason. She is smart not to date someone from work, you should do the same..it leads to lots of awkwardness.
Wait til one of you don't work there any more to purue it.
2006-12-10 20:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right...only asking for trouble if you get involved in office romances...people love to start rumors.
2006-12-10 20:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by jesshispet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is, nobody can tell you. People lie every day. People tell the truth every day. It is hard to tell the difference
2006-12-10 20:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋