our marriage was not accepted by our parents as it was a love marriage.After marriage we both went to our own houses as usually and told our parents only after a month.my in-laws had accepted but my parents have not accepted at that time later slowly even they accepted it.But the problem started now saying that they will accept only when we r married again in presence of all our family members but our inlaws r not accepting to get us married again. So what can i do now? Should i leave him and marry anyone else or should i leave the house with him?
2006-12-10 20:06:10 · 23 answers · asked by papana k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You do not sound sure of yourself, him, your mutual love or the marriage. You need to mature more in order to make a decision. Give it some time. Get busy with other growth aspects of your life, like your career, your future, hobbies, activities,etc
If you find yourself getting disconnected from him---then your love was just childish infatuation. If you still feel strongly then go ahead---make the move. Another wedding ceremony for your parents approval and to preserve their sense of correctness, is fine. Keep it small, inexpensive and simple as your in-laws are not in favor of this redundancy. Explain to both parties about your committment to each other and your desire to have both their blessings and support.
2006-12-10 23:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the way you have written it out is very confusing, it seems to be one complete run-on sentence. Anyway, i gather that you are very young or a little naive because if you are in love and happy then that's why people get married. If your parents want you to have an official wedding to let the family celebrate it then you should do so. The inlaws seem to be a little contradictory, if they support the wedding originally then why would they care if you re-sealed your vows? If they aren't happy then they won't show up right? Good luck, and hopefully you take a little more care in maintaining and caring for your marriage, and not just "leave him and marry someone else"-that's a pretty immature thing to say if you say you really love him...good luck.
2006-12-11 01:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by Future Mrs. Beasley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not you do a reception? So that you can let all your parents side and your inlaws side to know them that you are married. if anyone asks you can say marriage happened in a simple way coz of astrology and had no time. So tell them you got married and keeping reception now. So by this way you can make happy your parents and your inlaws too. This way you can let the world know you are married. Try talking about this to inlaws this way. Hope this will be a good solution for you couples.
2006-12-13 11:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mayandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since ultimately you will have to live with your husband and in-laws if you want to lead a married life with the man you have married, it is wiser to respect the wishes of your in-laws and not your parents. Besides repeating the marriage all over again doesn't make any sense. You can have a big party with your friends and relatives, which you have missed at the time of your marriage. See if your parents agree to that. If they don't, leave your house with your husband.
2006-12-11 03:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you truly love someone, you would have stood together and told your parents together that you were married. Why do you need the acceptance of family before you 'come out of the dark?' It sounds to me like you both don't know what you want and are not ready to be marrried to ANYONE. You need to grow up before you go headlong into a marriage and then have to ask someone what you should do. Go see a priest, a minister, a rabbi or any person who can truly assist you. Good luck.
2006-12-10 20:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm amarried now and that i comprehend that if something takes position to my marriage i visit in no way marry lower back using the undeniable fact that purely proves that a wedding ceremony can end. and It fee alot to marry and dicvore so why no longer save the money and the time and purely stay at the same time. I beleive that a peice of paper alterations each and every thing. i look lower back on my marriage and that i imagine that it would were more effective to stay relationship because we were given lengthy alot more effective. yet even with the undeniable fact that it truly is a gereat feeling to percentage an same call because the guy i love. it truly is a large step to take. So take it with large care!!
2016-11-25 20:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by wilcoxen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you get married? I hope it was not in a temple. If it was in Arya Samaj it is valid. They must have given you a marriage certificate. If it was a registered marriage it is valid too and you must be having marriage certificate. When you are already married it makes no difference whether your elders get you married again as per Hindu rites or not. You can not remarry with some one else unless you have a divorce. If you got married in a temple it is not valid and you can remarry. If one of you is not a major the marriage is not valid.
2006-12-10 21:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have registered your marriage, your parents have to honour it. Their refusing to accept it would be illegal when law has accepted it. How can parents corner their child like this?
Do not worry! Second time marriage is out of question.
2006-12-10 20:30:10 · answer #8 · answered by gireesh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you exactly?
Are you still a child?
Did you elope? If so, why did you feel the need to elope?
My advice: if you love your man, stand by him no matter what life throws at you!
Don`t worry about what your respective families have to say on the subject.
Life is way too short as it is!
Good luck to both of you!
2006-12-10 20:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lolita Angel Rose Taylor-Kennedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a second wedding and tell your in-laws that if they do not wish to attend then they do not have to. It is best to have another wedding to remind the family members that it isn't just the joining of you and your husband but also the melding of two families.
2006-12-10 21:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by ashleighshea1982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋