I break with my bf 20 days before coz he had relationship with some other girl also. I came 2 know this from my friend who had seen him with her but he didnt agree with it. After that he ask me that can we be friends nd i say that we will remain as friends. After that he used to call me after every second day. My 1 other friend say me that if u had broken with him then y u talk 2 him on cell. She said that u r keeping him in dark nd making fool of him. I said her that his (my bf's) exams r going on i dont want to disturb him right now but later i will stop him to call me. Today when i say this to him this same thing then he say that no u r not keeping me in dark he say that i call u as a friend. I say that my other friends dont call me so much like this then he said that am i equal to all those 4 u. I say that now nothing is left then there should be no diff. b/w u nd them. He say that what u want now? I say that u should not call me. Am i right pls tell me soon.
2006-12-10 19:45:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes sangeeta ur right
When there nothing in between both of u then why to call again or be friends coz it will not make any difference to him but it will make hell lot of difference to u so its better not to have any kind of relationship with this guy. just concentrate on ur future.
All the best for ur future.
2006-12-11 19:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by pearly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sangeeta... what you told him seems like the right thing to do, that is tell him that if the two of you are only friends then why does he call you more often. maybe you are comforting for him, may be he has the best equation with you. what happened to the other girl he was goin around with? does he call her as often, or more or less? you have not had an time off to heal from ur break up. you can tell him that u need sometime to be fine and be more logical in the current relationship (friendship) with him. and take some time off so ur emotions and memories from the time u had a relationship with him does not keep resurfacing. once u think and feel fine, go ahead and befriend him, and u can set down ur limits in the kind of relationship u want with him. remember u are not obilged to reciprocate, may be all this calling is only to reduce his sense of guilt for cheating on you. maybe!! but u have done the right thing. hold on and be strong.
2006-12-11 05:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how rude she is for giving you a hassle about your English! As someone who is trying hard to learn a new language (Tagalog), I find it frustrating that someone would be like that. She is obviously immature and I feel sorry that she answered your question. Sometimes it really is better to just not say anything at all. Other than grammar and spelling errors, I see nothing wrong with this question.
Anyway, as I understand it, you broke up with your bf, but he keeps calling you more than you think just a friend should and you ended up having to tell him not to call you.
First of all, it is your right to decide who you communicate with. You should stop letting your friends and him make you feel bad about your decisions. Only you can decide if you should stay in touch with him. My guess is that he loves you or at least feels there could be something very good with you and still has hope that you will change your mind and go out with him again.
By the way, are you sure that he really did go out with the other girl? Maybe you should stay in touch with him, but it is OK to set a limit on how many times he can call you. It is your decision.
2006-12-11 04:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Roger S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To speak truly, ex-bfs do not make good friends. Atleast not immdediately after bewakups. Break all contacts with him and you are right to say that he should not call you. Perhaps, some years alter, you will be ready to communicate as a friends but I don't think it is advisable now.
2006-12-11 05:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do i have a feeling that ur friend is kinda jelouse. Well, at the first place maybe u were wrong when u broke up with him maybe ur friend was lying. But if u dont want to talk with him then it's ur choice but u seem that u do want to talk but r trying to show ur friend that ur over with him. Well, in ma eyes u shouldnt have said so.
2006-12-11 03:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by yordanos a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u really bothered by his calls?I don't think so.It's only coz' ur friend said this to u.Let him call u,he has to pay 4 the bill,u don't lose anything.If it is like ur parents r suspiciou then u've done a right thing, I'd say.If it is the other way round,it's ur friend's fault.She has deliberately made u go against him,it seems!!!
2006-12-11 05:55:52 · answer #6 · answered by girija j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him call you as much as he wants to!!!!
And if your other friends want to - they can call you as much as they want to too...
After all - remember that he is use to calling and talking to yo and he is comfortable with your conversations and the things that you and hi always talk about......
SO don't let others run your life by telling you that you should not talk to him as much........They are really just JEALOUS of him and they don't want to share you with him....Keep him as he is a friend and who knows ---He just might be that BF again and be true to you for life.....
2006-12-11 03:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by D Coy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friendship needs to go both ways. Some of my friends I talk to all the time and some friends I don't talk to very often. But, if YOU don't want to talk to him as often then that is your choice. There is nothing wrong with that.
2006-12-11 03:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If its what you want and it feels like the right thing to do, don't speak to him if you're not comfortable with it.
Why would someone anyways want to be friends with a guy who could not care to be a decent boyfriend to begin with..that's a no no in my book.
2006-12-11 04:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by sexybabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right. Coz when u wanted to break your relationship he didn't try to make up. So that means that in his life u are not so important. U just wait for your right person now.
2006-12-11 03:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by nazia f 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋