My friend keeps saying how she wishes she was married. She mentions this every time I ring her and recently said "I want to have sex". As christians, we know this is only for after marriage. She says that if she knew what she could do to get God moving in that area, she'd do it. How can I reassure her? I'm also of the same age and also alone without a husband, but somehow I have things to occupy my loneliness.
2006-12-10 19:42:05 · 36 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
if you experience God's love you won't trade to anything else.
I know that sex is human needs but it also a lust.
what is the real reason of we want to have sex. Ok if you are all saying is for fun. Please be true to yourself do you really feel satisfied.
Do you know the resposibility after having sex? how about if you accidently pregnant? do you want to have abortion?
it will affected your emotional i believe.
Do find your purpose in life. sex is not the only thing. (it's minor)
see others need, help the poor, have social life, get a hobby
I am a human also that has that craving but with God's help i am able to have that stop sign not to go futher to have real sex.
Occupy your mind with other things like helping others in need.
2006-12-10 22:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by soei_cs_82 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am 36 and I would not be able to date someone 23. There are too many differences in maturity. I have some younger friends, but we are at really different stages in life. I would be very uncomfortable personally. At 23 you are just really starting life and an adult and need that time to become who you are. I don't know about you, but I am a different person than when I was 23. But you need to do what is right for you and not worry about what others think. If you are comfortable with it , then you have to do what is right for you. You are not robbing the cradle- both of you are adults. When I was 33 I dated a 28 year old and even he was a bit young for me. He wanted to stay up all night and drink and have fun, which is fine, but I have a career and commitments and things to worry about. He was a super guy, but just at a different stage in life than me. I now am with a 42 year old and it couldn't be better. I like a more mature , established man, who knows how to be a man with confidence. I am sure he is a super guy, but 23 is a bit young in my humble opinion. Give him some time to be... Good luck.
2016-05-23 04:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age the biological clock is not just ticking but the Coukoo is about to smash those stupid door right off and fly.
Unprotected sex is what she craves and lets face it most blokes will run a mile. I think she needs to lower her sights somewhat.
This is the flip side to arranged marriage, like at least you get laid and have kids if you are forced to Marry Cousin Arkmed from Khazakstan. Perhaps the Islamites have something right after all.
2006-12-10 19:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
most men would probably run a mile if you were a 35 year old virgin. If she wants to have sex let her. It will all be forgiven. People are getting married later and later. I thought God wanted people to pro create. she's gonna be too old to have kids if she never has sex. Come on it's the year 2006. I'm sure god has adapted his thinking
2006-12-10 22:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by fel t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might need your help, and there's nothing wrong with helping. My best friend was a virgin at 27 and I gave him a hand finding a nice girlfriend. They're doing great.
Do you have any male friends somewhat close to her age that you think she might like? Breaking the ice can be just about close to impossible without a little networking sometimes.
2006-12-10 19:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ellis26 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if she must find a husband then have her go to the church socials. But to be honest she should stop worrying and go out and find someone to just be with. I know its all about getting married and having a baby but they never say in the bible get married so you feel better. Sexuality has a place in making you feel better like... well less stress. I would be worried about a heart attack in your friend. Also I know many many Christan's that have partners and no marriage. One of the greatest I know was with one male her whole life and did not get marred. I think that is important... We were not meant to just sit and wait.
If water just sits it gets stagnate. so just have her go find someone and go for it. If she waits she could be waiting all her life.
2006-12-10 19:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you both should have sex already. While you're waiting for some idealistic Christian Prince Charming, you're wallowing in cold sheets, tortured by your thoughts! Meanwhile, the rest of us are having sex and feeling great.
As Billy Joel observes, "Some people sleep all alone every night, instead of taking a lover to bed." I think that's really sad, don't you?
Sex is a basic need of humans, like food and safety. By denying yourself of it, you're being inhuman.
If nothing else, get that woman some chocolate! LOL
Merry Christmas!
2006-12-10 19:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by melissa 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Yet another downside of Christianity. The body has the need to procreate. After 35, her chances of having a baby are slim to none. Her body knows this, so it is reacting accordingly. Your friend is biologically normal.
2006-12-10 19:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If she wants to have sex, she should have sex. The longer you wait, the harder it's going to be to jump in the game. I thought the point in believing in God is to lift your spirits or some b.s. like that, but it seems like you two are torturing yourselves.
And anyway, you Christians have that catch-all: confession. She can still go to "heaven," even if she does do some reckless, sinful, horrible thing like pre-marital sex.
2006-12-10 20:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by aloha damashi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just reassure her that she is doing what god has commanded her to do,my sister was the same until she met a guy at church and now they are married and the fact that they both waited as true christians they said made it all the more worth while!
2006-12-10 20:14:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋