I feel like if I have sex with my boyfriend I will be able to tell if he REALLY likes me..If he stays with me afterwards and doesn't move on then it isn't just about the chase. What are your thoughts??
2006-12-10 19:32:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What kind of logic is that?
2006-12-10 19:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please, no offence to all who wrote in with their views. All I feel is Sex or no Sex is a matter of something you feel. To be honest there are people who live with the constant fear that after having sex the partner would walk away and they they lose, if the partner stays they feel they won it because of sex. Well, one thing is for sure...If you feel the need arising between the two of you to have sex then just do it...living the rest of your life is something that is a matter of compatibility and not based just on sex. So live your life and live it in the present and without the thought of tomorrow spoiling things for today. Its better to have lived than never live at all. So, please don't give these aspects a thought, give what you feel and give the true thing and never ever let it bother you. Sex is just another expression but a visible one and its for you to decide if you need to show it or not. Anyone can say good and bad however, emotions that you have at a point of time for that someone is what no one else can experience and so its for you to decide and for you to call the shots.
2006-12-12 06:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a really bad way to tell if someone really likes you, you can have great sex with someone you only met once or twice but that doesn't mean that they like you or that they are going to stick around, it just means the sex was good and you may never see them again.
If your boyfriend is prepared to wait until you are ready to have sex, when you are truly ready - not just feeling that you need to test his love, that is a much keener test of his feelings for you.
Having sex for the first time is a big step, you are giving something of yourself to that person, something that you will never be able to give anyone else. You need to think about it a lot before you decide that you are ready, don't just do it on the spur of the moment and regret it for the rest of your life that you didn't wait for someone special. (Not necessarily the One, but someone you love dearly.)
2006-12-14 06:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Shadow_Dancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really like you, REMEMBER, he will not have sex with you, untill the maturity of your relationship. If he has it so early, he will most probably do it for his pleasure only and i'm sure, things will be what you fear. So don't be hasty in having sex. For boys, sex is just SEX, but for the girls, it means, and should mean much more than that. In a true love or likeness, sex is the last thing to be done.
2006-12-11 03:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should have sex with your boyfriend to see if he really likes you. If he really does he will wait! Because once you start, you won't stop...and if he gets frustrated or something and can't or doesn't want to discuss about it, then there's a problem. It does also sound that you are under pressure. And a lot of the times when you are under pressure, you can't think properly...so don't do anything unless you have really thought about it. And if he starts giving you the talk "I have needs", then you should just leave him there!
2006-12-11 03:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by hustlerose_a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, I would say wait. Unfortunately, the sooner you have sex, the more shallow you will look to him. It's not so much the chase in my opinion as how someone thinks about you after you have sex so soon. If you have sex with them after x dates, that means you have sex with everyone after x dates. I think that is how most guys feel/think.
2006-12-11 03:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by glowe126 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your confused. He's more apt to stay with you if you have sex because he knows where he can get it without a big hassle. If he really cares for you he'll stay with you without having sex. You can't tell if someone likes you by having sex with them.Don't rush it.
2006-12-11 03:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The opposite, I would say. A guy who is willing to wait for sex is the keeper. If he stays with you after you have sex, it only means he likes having sex with you, it doesn't mean he likes YOU.
2006-12-11 03:35:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have sex if you want to not to see if he likes you and if he is gonna stay!!! that is just dumb. You should enjoy sex and not think if you are great enough while having sex. So just leave it and let him know that you are insecure
2006-12-11 05:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by hotty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on a few things, whether this is your first, how long you have been with him etc. but if u have been with him for a while and would be you first time (trusting that you are over 16) then i personally think you should. but if you havent been with him long then your best bet is to be patient, if he is just waiting for one thing then the chances are he will lose patience and you will know thats all hes waiting for. but could be an honest guy and willing to wait until you are ready.
2006-12-11 03:36:51 · answer #10 · answered by Yubious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's a terrible test! How will you know if he likes you for yourself or just because he can get his itch scratched?
Look at the site below, especially the first six sections. These "tests" for love are based on social science research.
2006-12-11 03:44:51 · answer #11 · answered by Coriander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋