My girlfriends grandad died on friday night, i was due to go away for weekend to Leeds clubbing with mates! I still went, (lots of sexy ladies in Leeds fellas) her family hate me so what was the point in hanging around with her all weekend! I was gonna let her come with me to leeds, but she wanted to be with her family! She wanted me to stay at home with her, her family cant even stand to be in the same room as me! She should of come with me to Leeds her family have won now with her spending the weekend with them! I dont want her to go to the funeral unless i can go too! Thats never gonna happen! How would you feel her brother wants to beat me up, her mother cant even look at me! I dont think ive done anything wrong weve been together for 4 years now! I think its time my girlfriend picked either me or her family! What do you think?
2006-12-10 19:31:41 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one understands mine and my girlfriends relationship but us!
2006-12-10 20:26:32 · update #1
My life isnt fiction miss noo! You think you can be the girl to change me nelly noo?
2006-12-10 21:26:19 · update #2
LOL Bamma once again laughing butt off. Bamma say you better look for new girl. Bamma say she dump you within 48 hours. Bamma say you went to look at girls when your real girlfriend need you to stay and hold her? Bamma say oops. Bamma say wasn't meant to be. Bamma say you go buy big diamond ring to make up for it. Bamma say or pack your bags. Bamma say that might not even be enough. Bamma think you the straw that break the camels back. Bamma say so.
2006-12-10 19:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
She needed YOU around when her grandad died and you were not there for her, that says a lot about you and if she has any sense she will dump you off. The conflict you have with her family is no excuse, you should have been there to support her and the comments you make about sexy woman in Leeds is out of order. If she read your question, she would be very upset at a time when she is grieving.
2006-12-11 05:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Annie M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all do not expect her to forego her Grandads funeral, that is her last chance to say goodbye to him and if she doesn't go she may end up resenting you for that! Secondly I kinda understand. Me and my b/f have been together nearly 6 years and him and my mum don't get along so well. Mainly because the first time they met he was drunk! (Have you done something that may have caused this ill feeling? Have a good think because a problem like that is easily rectified.) Anyway me and my bf nearly split up over this. He asked me to choose and I am almost certain that she will give you the same answer I gave him. Family. I'm sorry but thats the way it is always going to go! In the end my bf sat down with my mum and had a talk with her and its all sorted. If you love her its best to try and sort things out rather than making it worse by making her feel torn between you and her family.
Good luck.x
2006-12-11 05:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by shepherdess7980 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
James, do you like portraying yourself as a male chauvinist pig? I don't believe anyone could be that insensitive, even you. If your grandparent died I'm sure you would want to go (and would go) whether your girlfriend wanted you to or not. It's family at the end of the day, and with you saying you treat her in that awful way, I don't blame her family for hating you. Her brother should beat you up! I also do not believe that what you are saying is the truth, nobody would tell the truth about being that selfish and controlling. If this is really your view of your girlfriend, then God help the poor woman!!!
2006-12-11 05:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been there to support her. By all means, go to the funeral with her. Even if her family dislikes you, seeing you comfort her might make them realise how important you are to her. Perhaps her mother and brother are overprotective and are afraid that you are taking their place. If this is the case, then attending the funeral may help them face this reality. People often change around death. Her mother might be happy to see you, and the brother might feel closer to you. (I had a coach who seemed to hate my guts after I showed up late because I was attending my grandfather's funeral. I never did find out if he was angry because I did not give him proper respect, or if he was mad because I missed half the match.)
The very worst that could happen if you went to the funeral is that the situation would remain the same.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 03:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by TomServo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to resolve what ever the problem is with her family, otherwise it might be that it never works out between the two of you. I can understand why you went out with your mates since you had it planned and if you weren't close to her grandfather or other family members then that is fair enough. Show her that you care now and that you want to go to the funeral to pay your respects. I don't think you should make her "pick you or her family". That's really unfair, and if she is anything like me then I am sorry to say you will never win! Of course she wanted to be with her family after her grandfather died. You need to understand that. I think communication is the key here. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-12-11 05:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by guylian_chocolate_seashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can kind of understand you saying that to be with her family knowing that they all hate you would be difficult. But the fact that you were not prepared to put yourself through that for her indicates that you don't really care for her...I think you should stop seeing her, drop her nicely of course. It sound like you are not too bothered about her as you keep mentioning how there are so many hot chicks in Leeds! I think you need to realise that there is a time to "Do the right thing", you are not willing to do this for this girl so move on.....ps. also you have to realise its not a choice between you and her family!
2006-12-11 03:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by grayder 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is how you have treated her over her the death of her grandad, no wonder her family don't like you.
"(Lots of sexy ladies in Leeds fellas)" - her family can obviously see through you and if you have treated her like this when she is going through an emotional time, what are you like when she is not!
I think you have been very mean to her and you will be lucky to keep her if you carry on with this attitude!
2006-12-11 03:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by peachy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in the wrong about this. Your girlfriend's grandfather just died. She's not about to go out clubbing with you, that's a given. If you were sensitive to her situation, you would've gone with her. Sure, her family hates you, but that's something you put up with to be with her. You really needed to be there for her, and I think you bailed on her, because it didn't suit you. I think you should go to the funeral with her, despite her family's ill will toward you. If anything, that's a show of respect on your part towards them. If you keep doing what you're doing now, they're just going to hate you more.
2006-12-11 03:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by tracethelostboy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can only draw conclusions from the information that you've given me, but you don't exactly sound like the supportive type.
My nana died last Thursday and my father and I do not speak and I know nobody from that side apart from my nana. My father holds nothing but contempt for my husband but he still insisted that he went with me to comfort me and be with me, even though he dreaded it. Luckily there was no trouble.
As for going to Leeds with your mates to ogle women whilst your girlfriend grieved, well... I'm too astounded to comment on that one, sorry.
It all sounds like such a bother for you, what a shame. Why don't you do her a favour and leave her? That way she can get with someone who actually gives a hoot about her feelings while you can get off with a cheap tart in Leeds.
2006-12-11 03:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are boring and can't seem to find stuff to keep on the right track
I would prob be the same in respect of not wanting to settle down but if I was in a relationship I wouldn't cheat
But I really don't think I could stay with one person for the rest of my life although if the right person came along I would never say never
2006-12-11 06:29:31 · answer #11 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋