i met my best friend about 5 months ago at work and at the beginning, i thought he was a really cool, good-looking guy. i gave him my number and that night he called me and informed me he had a girlfriend. i told him that it was fine. i just wanted to get to know him better. so we hung out during 15-minute breaks and lunch breaks mostly. we would also talk on the phones at work and on our cells alot. well, recently, he just broke up with his girlfriend (of 4 years...). i really dont know what to do because i have developed deep feelings for him in the past couple weeks, but with him and his ex, things are going fine. theyre still hanging out and on good terms. also he just turned 22 and im about to turn 19. do you think i should do anything or wait for him to come around?
2006-12-10 19:30:18 · 8 answers · asked by jane 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't know him for long time. I think this is just an attraction. First you have to read your feelings about him correctly and then you decide what you have to do. If you come to know that you really like him then wait for him. But I think you should go forward in your life. Because life goes on and we have to keep pace with it for our betterment.
2006-12-10 19:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by nazia f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change = yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. They don't respect women or children. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
2006-12-11 04:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. I am on the other end of your situation. I am still hanging out with my ex even after we officially broke up. I think he just can't break away from his feelings toward me. This inevitably prevents him from ever fully giving his heart to another woman.
At some point he should decide what is really important to him. That is asking alot of a young man of 22. As for you, you are 19 and have the world's plate of men at your feet. Go discover girl. Life is short and we must always be looking out for the best for ourselves because no one else can. I guarantee you will find another man that you are attracted to with less complications and become distracted from your friend. Mother Nature has your destiny all planned out but it is you that decides the roads to take. Good Luck.
2006-12-11 03:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait and see, make him feel somehow that you have deep feelings for him,, and that you care for him more than his ex girlfriend. Remember, love is a rare gift, if you have this gift, don't hesitate or linger it too much telling him your feelings or you'll regret this all your life.
2006-12-11 04:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for sme time he might be looking for a rebound thats their way of handeling a breakup u never know he might get back wit her dnt have any hopes i have been thru this 2months later he met smeone and i was history just a rebound be his friend
2006-12-11 06:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, juz let the nature take its course. if u deciede to wait for him, wait for him. but if any good guys came along, don be stubborn or hesitant. u r still young, there are a lot of good guys out there too.
2006-12-11 03:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebound relationships never work.
2006-12-11 03:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll do what your heart and mind tell you to do. Peace.
2006-12-11 03:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋