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He doesn't have much going for him in life and looks at everything very pessimistically...and he thinks he is in love with someone who doesn't love him, but won't let it go. He's beginning to scare me, please help. I don't know if he will go get help, but he listens to me for some reason. Is there anything I can tell him that would help?

2006-12-10 19:26:52 · 15 answers · asked by CRH 1 in Politics & Government Military

15 answers

Oh, please bear hug him for me? We owe our lives to him. Please tell him how thankful we are for his sacrifices from the bottom of our hearts times a million.

Please tell him that we tried so hard to alter the vicious political climate he returned to. We did our best to fight the media and propagandists for him.

Please tell him I said "Thank You for protecting little 'ole me. You're my Hero."

He should go to the VA for a check up with the general Doc for starters. Tell the Doc everything and see where it goes from there.

We wish him the best of health. Merry Christmas and a Sparkling New Year to both of you.

2006-12-10 20:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lana Lang 4 · 3 0

You're a good friend for being concerned about his wellbeing. I've had many friends experience the same thing. I went through the same situation of depression when I returned from Iraq. The best thing you can do is continue to be his friend: listen when he talks, be supportive and encouraging, and keep reminding him that he's home in a country where anything is possible.

I'd also encourage him to talk to a mental health specialist about post-traumatic stress. His post hospital or a local VA clinic can help him. There's plenty of help out there for combat vets in this situation.

Remind him that it's common to feel the way he does and he can heal from it. It will take some time and some effort, but if there's anything a combat vet knows how to do is wait and work hard!

Also, ignore those jackasses who tell him to "man up." Slapping him around will just push him over the edge. Gentleness and kindness is more effective.

2006-12-11 08:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well first off the VA will not be able to help. He is enlisted and not out of the military. Second he is away from family and friends near the holidays. So are a lot of men and women that have children. He needs to pull himself up by his boot straps. They do have mental health advisors in Iraq! He can count out using this to go home though. I wish him the best. The one thing I will tell you is to be positive and a good listener!

2006-12-10 19:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

If he is out of the military now - then he needs to go to the VA. I recommend that he find a VA outreach center instead of one of the regular clinics.

If he is still in then the needs to ask for a referral to a 'combat stress' team.

This is not something that a person should try to 'tough it out.' Encourage him to get help and heal.

2006-12-11 03:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by MikeGolf 7 · 1 0

im so sorry approximately your friends brother and likewise your boyfriend, im guessing thats who ryan is i think of the suitable component you're able to do is be there for him via his temper swings that not make any experience to you, or if he in simple terms blows up hes dealing with an incredibly difficult time i'm hoping each thing gets extra helpful :) xoxo olivia

2016-12-13 06:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Tell him thanks from me for serving.

Give him a big hug- tell him that there are too many good women out there -and she's obviously not the one for him.

Is he still in? See if you can take him to see the chaplin. The chaplin can direct him to places to help.

Maybe an antidepressant would help - there is no shame in taking one.

2006-12-10 20:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

the VA is one or swords to plowshares can help him out. he may be suffering from post traumatic stress syndrome., if you think he may harm himself or others you need to call police and they will put him in the hospital for a three day evaluation or a 51 50. your a good friend and i hope this helps

2006-12-10 19:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by twocrows 2 · 1 1

The military has family services, they offer counseling & probably good idea to go to the doctor - a doctor is a good source for services available.

2006-12-10 19:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

The VA, you need to encourage him to seek help many vets/men feel it is weak to seek mental health assistance.

2006-12-10 19:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by Frank R 7 · 3 0

Ok frist off you must relize what they have seen and done. Tell them that you are there for him whenever he needs you. Give him lots of hugs. Just be there tell him you love him and why.

2006-12-10 19:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by chelci2003 2 · 3 1

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