Well i'm 14...I'll turn 15 in April.
I realize I'm young and some of you may think I don't know anything about realtionships..but I'm not stupid....
Anyway the other night...I met a boy at a party...he is 17 and I told him I was 16.
That put aside...
we all went to his house..my friends..his friends etc...
and we just talked...
about everything and we realised we had alot in common.
Things we've never had in common with someone else.
On both friday and saturday nights this weekend I lied to my mother and stayed the night at his house...but nothing happened..we just talked It was really neat.
Now I feel like I've screwed up alot because here is this person that I have so much in common with, and nothing can happen because I lied and said I was older.
So should I cut it off and call it a lesson or tell the truth and try to make it work.??
I am so confused!
please don't call me names or be rude, I just really need advise.
I can't talk to my mom...because then she'd know..
HELPPP
2006-12-10 19:26:09 · 26 answers · asked by tiffany_r_bunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
so I think i'm best off telling the truth...lol.
Now how do I ease my parents into the thought of me having a serious relationship?
I'm only 14...but ready...I mean obviously I'm mature for my age if he bought that I was 16.
My mom was a virgin when she married and freaked out when she found out I had even kissed a boy..
I don't talk to my parents about anything.
I'm a really private person and they just don't understand that.
I see these kids YOUNGER tahn me that stay the night at they're boyfriends' house..and their parents DROP THEM OFF!
How do I ease my mother into the idea of a realtionship at my age?
2006-12-10 19:43:14 · update #1
iv lied heaps about my age
its really up to u weather u want to keep lying to him or not and ur mum
personalily i think its better to tell the guy the truth about ur age
if u ever have sex he could go to jail so not cool
even tho u have heaps in common u neva no he mite like u even tho ur underage alot :)
so just do what feels write obviously u dont like lying to him or u wouldnt be asking this question so go with ur gut hunny and tell him
and u will meet plenty of other guys who will like u in life so dont get to upset if he isnt interested in u coz ur 14
or maby u could just tell him" that u want to be friends bt u really like him and feel bad for lying and only lied coz u didnt think he would want to talk to u and that u dont want to put him into any trouble so its better of that way "
u no if he even likes u like that or he was just being nice to u
epp i dunno
2006-12-10 19:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best answer, tell him the truth. If you want to have a serious relationship with him than don't start it off with a lie.
The reasons moms don't like girls spend the night at boys house is because of peer pressure. Putting yourself in a situation that you might not be ready to handle.
2006-12-10 19:30:30 · answer #2 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just be honest with him and tell him how old you really are. Sooner or later he will find out and the later it is, the more pissed he will be about it. Oh well if he doesn't talk to you again, then you didn't need him anymore. Ever heard of the saying, there's more fish in the sea? Well if he decides to keep on trucking, you'll find another boy who you have things in common with. & you really shouldn't be spending the night at boys' houses. Where are his parents? Just remember that honesty is the best policy in life. Good luck.
2006-12-10 19:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ballagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are prepared for the fact that it would be over if you told him the truth then you should. The worst that can happen is that you were right and you learn that lesson but there is always a chance that you can work it out. If you have that much in common then maybe he could still see hope for the two of you.
2006-12-10 19:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth.When i was 16 i told this guy that i was 18 and he was 23.He was so cool and we hung out the time and i really started to like him but i felt bad because I hadn't told him my real age.So one day we were hanging out and i just told him.He just wanted to know why i didn't tell him in the first place and i told him that it was because wasn't sure if he would still talk to me and that i thought he would think that i was a little kid.He said that it wasn't that big of a deal that i was a cool girl and not to keep anything from him.To this day me and him still hang out and hes like my best friend and were dating.So tell the truth maybe hes as cool as a guy as mine.
2006-12-10 19:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by Oompa Loompa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa-he might run. Don't take it personally if he does. Put yourself in his shoes, how would you feel? You need to come clean with him. Tell him you respect him as a friend and enjoy his company soo but you are afraid because you have a secret. Of course he will want to know what it is. Tell him, then let him dictate what happens next. If he stops calling, don;t chase him, that will only make him run farther. If he is a good guy and truly cares about you he won;t mind and will continue to be your friend.
2006-12-10 19:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing good comes from lying. Confess to the guy and mom, and it will all be good. You should never lie to your mom and stay out all night, as something could happen, and no matter how nice you think he is, he could rape you. That happened to my daughter by a friend she trusted. It is not a good idea to spend the night somewhere without anyone knowing where you are.
2006-12-10 19:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you need to admit to this guy that you are younger than what you said. Maybe he will still want to go out with you, maybe he will want to be friends, maybe he will run screaming from the room, but I think you will always wonder what will "could" have happened if you don't tell him and find out. Worry about what your mother is going to think later...its not like you are going to run away with him or have sex. You just met a cool guy. Good luck sweetie.
2006-12-10 19:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by jordan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth and why you trust him enough to come clean! He maight even be flattered that you lied to get to know him! Don't make a break, it sounds like a great thing is happening if you wete able to talk for 2 nights and nothing happened!
Good luck!
2006-12-10 19:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth... if he really loves you then he'll continue the relationship... it could just be a relationship where you two call each other daily, go out for lunch go to movies together.. until you'll are 18 and take it a step further =]
I wish you two the best of luck
2006-12-10 19:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by silvs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋