I am a guy and was wondering would you like it if you where dating a guy, to tell you that he was a virgin when you make love for the first time with each other? It's just I am a virgin and have not yet got a girlfriend but when I do should I tell her or not before the first time we make love together? I mean would it be something you would want to know?
2006-12-10 19:12:50 · 19 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont say anything unless she asks,then tell the truth if she does !
2006-12-10 19:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, most girls won't wanna know. Trust me (this is the wisdom of first-hand experience talking).
And anyway, once you fumble around for 10 minutes trying to unhook her bra, you would not even have to say it. lol
Seriously, telling or not telling is not such a big deal.
Instead of thinking about your (or her) virginity, how about beefing up on the knowledge about how to pleasure a woman? I suggest that's the more important thing you should be focusing on. Will serve you a lot better in the future too.
2006-12-10 19:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by petetabingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know. That way I could double check the condom and know that it was more my responsibility to be careful. And to show you how to use the condom correctly Before and After!!!!!
Don't lie about it if you care for her.
If the girl that you are with has done it before then you should tell her. If she cares for you then she will talk you through it. She won't be upset if it isn't the best in the world because you shared something with her that you will never be able to share with anyone again. Don't ask how it was after wards neither that is bad bad move. You will know when it was good for her. DON"T ASK ME HOW PLEASE you will just know. ;)
Someone that cares for you will feel honored to be the first. I wouldn't suggest going out with just anyone to do it. And don't lie about it. If the girl has done it before she will know if you are or are not.
Just be safe and don't rush it will happen soon enough.
2006-12-10 19:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Feather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the girl, if your a virgin you should wail until you are in a loving relationship, in Which case you should feel comfortable telling her anyway and it should not make any difference. If you are going for a one night stand then don't tell her, it will put her off
2006-12-10 20:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by stampy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thats Great your a virgin. I'm one too. And if we were going out thats would be great to know because we both would be kinda in the same thing. And there would be no pressure or thinking Oh my and am I any good at it?
( hope it makes sense)
2006-12-10 19:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it all for a girl that you really feel respects you and is worth making love to.
You don't have to tell her, but if you do b4 you get that far, and she says anything immature and disrespectful about your virginity, save yourself for a girl who genuinely cares about your feelings and honesty.
Ps. don't let your first time be your worst time - use condoms.
2006-12-10 19:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well really it depends. If you are going to be in a relationship, then yes, sharing that would be a special thing for her to know. That is something that can bring you even closer to each other. If your going to do that "one nighter" then no, really they don't wanna know that stuff.
2006-12-10 19:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by rainbowbarrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not something I have really thought about but I don't think I would care either way to be honest!
Just go with whatever feels natural
2006-12-10 19:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Peachy Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her. If she thinks that you've done it before, she might wonder why you're thrashing about like you don't know what you're doing. Make sure you have a gentlemans clean beforehand - you don't want to go in there with a loaded gun either. Good luck.
2006-12-10 19:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would want to know but what makes you think soon as you get a GF she's gonna have sex with you? Maybe she's a virgin too and plans to remain that way until marriage.
2006-12-10 19:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋