I have a roommate that I have now fallen in love with. He is aware and does think the world of me but does not share the same loving feelings. We just go on day by day like it's not an issue and we're just the same most wonderful friends we've always been. There are days that, even with him here, I am overwhelmed with loniless because the feelings are not returned. I'm not sure if I should just go on like normal and maybe my feelings will change or just go on and maybe his will or just decide to no longer be roommates because it is breaking my heart. Has anyone had a situation like this and if so, what did you do?
2006-12-10 19:08:01 · 9 answers · asked by Lulugirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have two choices because if your roommate was honest with you and upfront about not returning your feelings of love then it's clear that nothing is going to happen there. So sitting around and obsessing over it will not accomplish much of anything. So now the choices.
1) If you want to continue as friends and roommates you just have to get over it! And I don't mean say everything is cool like you are doing now and then keep holding on to the fantasy. You have to let go or risk more pain, bitterness and eventually you'll probably end up destroying your friendship. I mean some people can be fickle and move on to the next person citing there are other fish in the sea. But from your post I'm suspecting you are the later.
2)This option is probably the wisest and that is to move out and on! If you are just torturing yourself then the whole roommate friendship thing isn't the healthiest arrangement. You need to get out while you can still salvage a friendship that is obviously still important to you and get some much needed perspective. What you are suffering from is called unrequited love and hun any Greek tragedy will tell you that will end!
2006-12-10 19:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by mistress_lilas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a total of 38 roommates in my life and although you would think that every type of situation that could come up, did come up, I never fell in love with any of the opposite sex.
However, as friendly advice, I would suggest you try to get out and date other men. It will distract you from the growing feelings you are having toward your roommate. This may also spark some feelings from him as to whether or not he is affected by your dating.
Either way, you will never be able to make him feel what you want him to feel. That is something that can only be found internally within him. You need a man that can return your feelings. Good Luck.
2006-12-11 03:23:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lulu that is really a messed up situation you got there. Feelings will NOT go away, you know saying "thin line between love and hate"? Yup I'm sorry to say but your relationship is over if he has no feelings for you he most likely will not have any feelings at all. If you keep mentioning and try talking about this to him he will just end up getting really annoyed or even pissed off. That's just being honest so don't sit around wasting your worries and years off your life "HOPING" he will come around. You are no longer "friends" you have strong feelings for him, unfortunately, he doesn't feel the same, therefore, the only solution is move out (Yes it may be inconvinient but you have to) and forget him. Love can turn into hate very quickly. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 03:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Dispirited 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who's really in love with this guy they are board mate but the guy loves another woman...my friends really cry when she learn about this what she did,she thinks positively and life must go on. She said to her self if they are meant for each other God will make it for them. She acts naturally when the guy is around she help him for his works.One day the Guy courted her and show his affection.Now they are happily married.
And if your not meant for each other i suggest move to other place and this will help you forget him and move on to your life.
2006-12-11 03:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by aleish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bestfriend's roommate has feelings for him but he doesn't feel the same and sometimes she is able to play it cool and sometimes she slips up. I think it would be easier for her to move on if she can't change her feelings.
2006-12-11 03:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take his word for it if he says he is not interested. date other guys. have them pick you up at home. have them walk you to the door at the end of the night. offer them coffee for their ride back home. play it cool. even if you are madly in love with your roommate, do not let him know this as it will make you appear weak. smile, be happy while you are around him. daydream alot. smile often. smile with your whole body. that'll show him!
2006-12-11 03:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by iwondersoiask 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are truley in love and there is no hope for anything more than friendship, you should find a new place to live. staying will only make you crazy. you might even lose a good friend over it.
2006-12-11 03:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk around naked that will change his mind
or he's a flaming homosexual
2006-12-11 03:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u-haul
2006-12-11 03:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋