I have a bf who I have been with for 5 years. However, recently there is this guy at work who I fancy & wants to take me out - I told him no cos I am seeing someone but he keeps popping back into my head.
Why is he even catching my eye as I have a bf I love?
2006-12-10 19:02:31 · 30 answers · asked by Cori 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are always going to find someone that catches your eye, that's nothing wrong with it unless you act on it. you are just wondering what it would be liek with someone else since youhave been with your BF for so long. to help push through it imagine your life without him...
2006-12-10 19:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Someguys just dont give up even if they see a girl already has a boyfriend. Does he know that u have a long term relationship with ur bf? If he doesent may be he thinks that its not that much serious. It could be that he likes u very much, but dont be too excited about it. Stay away from him if u feel like he wants to take advantage on u. If thats not the case just tell him that u dont have any plan to hang around with him as u r already in a stable relationship.
2006-12-11 03:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by mermaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being with you BF for 5 years doesn't guarantee that he's the one for you. If you've been in doubt, stay away from him for a while and reconsider your relationship. Most women have an instinct for that. I was with my ex bf for 5 years, but the longer I was with him, the more doubtful I was and finally I was certain that he wasn't for me. Don't tie a knot with someone just because you've been in a relationship with him for years. Take the new guy as a friend for now, go out with him as a friend. Bring your sister or someone whose instinct is reliable to judge the new guy. Don't cheat on your bf though.
2006-12-11 03:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're human. Just because you're in a committed relationship, it doesn't mean you lose your capacity to find other people attractive.
Since you say you love your boyfriend, I wouldn't let it bother you. Unless you fear something else is going wrong in your couple that may make you want to explore other options you've just developed a crush on someone else. Ignore the problem - it will go away.
If however, there's more than meets the eyes, you may need to start questioning whether you're not unsatisfied in your present relationship for some reason. In that case, you need to work on that relationship first. - I don't believe in straying until you're done with all the loose ends in your previous relationship. That's unfair to everyone involved.
But it's probably nothing.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-11 03:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in a relationship there are dull moments, esp if you have been with your guys for 5 years.
Therefore when this person pops by it sort of get you excited as its different from the norm.
That is why to ensure a relationship last longer both side must put in efforts to keep the fire burning. i.e. surprise each other with little things like a short getaway, tease him with a lap dance once in a while and then he gets the idea, he will do the same (surprises of his own).
Good luck
2006-12-11 03:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rosy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5 years is a long time . its normal that something new is exciting for you and this does not mean that you dont love your bf .
we are all curious and it is not bad at all to see that still we can attract other people .
But , think seriously about what you really want . look inside you and don't play as 5 years is a long time .
i wish you all the best !
2006-12-11 04:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because you wonder what it would be like to be with someone else after spending so long with just one person.
He keeps popping into your head as you are curious about him. Go with him for a coffee or even lunch. Nothing has to happen, sexually, between you. This is calm your fears and any anxieties that you may have about your b/f.
2006-12-11 03:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with having thoughts about someone,as long as you don't act on those thoughts.Having said that,it does suggest that you , more than your bf are having doubts,perhaps a nice wknd away would do you both good ? Good luck whatever happens
2006-12-11 04:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Darkhorse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you love one person and be attracted to another? Yes. Can you love more than one person at a time? Yes. Can you be true to more than one person at a time? No. You have a decision to make. Stay true to your boyfriend and push the guy at work out of your mind. OR... Tell your boyfriend you've decided it's time for you to start playing the field. DON't try to keep your boyfriend AND start seeing the guy at work. That's unfair to everyone involved.
2006-12-11 03:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys try to see if they can win you over all the time. They think persistency works and do not respect when girls say they have a bf because to them sometimes it means nothing.
2006-12-11 03:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋