she sent pics and video to the other guy....and she did this the month of my bday..
2006-12-10 18:55:51 · 16 answers · asked by goingsmart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While others may say "cheating is cheating no matter what", in your heart you are probably still convincing yourself that its not actually happening and wish you can remedy the situation.
Firstly, ask yourself how important this relationship is. Is she the last woman you wanna love inspite of this? If she is, then no matter what we advice you -- you will want to do something to sort this out with her.
She's the only one who can give you answers. So the best thing to do now is to TALK to her and let her know what you have discovered. Put her on the spot.
All kinds of people have a different sense of morality... perhaps she thinks what she is doing online is not cheating and her excuse is "she's bored and just having fun". With the advent of the internet, so many doors and unchartered avenues have opened up. Our interactions on the net is an evolving phenomenon. Cyberspace is a different dimension - a place were people can manifest that side of themselves that they can't show in public, reinvent a whole new person so that they will be attractive to more people. The problem is none of us are experts. Who lays down the rules? Does she even know that digital "indiscretion" is hurting you assuming she didn't intend to do so?
Chances are she will realize that her little "adventure" is not worth losing you and she will grow up and put 100% commitment to this relationship - because this is real, not a fantasy in her head. If she really is worth your love, then by all means give her a chance to redeem herself. Just keep in mind that it will take a lot of energy and devotion to trust her wholeheartedly. My question for you is - what if she denies it or tells you that she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong?
Once you have your answers, accept the truth even when it hurts. If she genuinely, truly loves you, she will not want to cause you anymore pain. She would stop her "cyber-dating". Good luck.
2006-12-10 20:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by artemis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you've found out she's cheated on you then there's nothing you can do ,,,, The break up between the two of you has already occured the minute she did it ,,,, There are plenty of other fish in the pond ,,,, Go fishing and find some one that will appreciate what you do for them ,,,, This certainly isn't the end of the world ,,,, If she hasn't made you bleed or taken food off of your table or money out of your pocket then I wouldn't worry about it ,,,,, Lesson learned for the future I guess ,,,, Turn the page and start a new chapter in your life with someone that you can trust ,,,
2006-12-10 20:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should break up because you'll never trust her again ever, but you should give it back a bit too, dump her and ask her friend or even better, worst enemy out the same day, then send her pics of you kissing her to your ex hahaha
2006-12-10 19:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by kathycracksit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nicely, that's the place the rubber hits the line. in case you quite love this female, you ought to forgive her, and supply her a 2d probability. it style of sounds like she grew to become into actual sorry for what she did, and that it would tear her aside in case you left her. All i will say is that in case you already know you adore her, forgive her and pass on (quite at as quickly as, i might upload).
2016-10-14 10:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by rosen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is your friend,I say she did it on purpose.Maybe she doesn't know how to dump you or is just keeping you in toe.
If she cheated,why you still worried about keeping someone like that around?
2006-12-10 19:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump her man. The world is full of women who are not going to play these games if a guy treats them well. Not worth your time.
2006-12-10 18:57:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HAHA!!!!! i got thru this too. i gave her another chance, but hey, ever since then i cant trust her. one year later we broke off cuz she couldnt stand my paranoid and suspiciousness ( is there such a word?)
its her own fault in the 1st place..she said as if its all my fault, this sucks
BREAK UP WITH HER
2006-12-10 19:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by sulaji84 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is Cheating, dump her.
2006-12-10 18:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would dump her. It will make her a humble woman. Believe me, it's liberating
2006-12-10 18:57:11 · answer #9 · answered by lefty 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hahaha dump her
2006-12-10 18:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by graduatecj08 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋