Ladies - how do you feel when you are walking down the street, and men stare at you and make comments about your appearance? Does it flatter you to get the attention - or does it bother you to be stared at and harassed?
2006-12-10 18:50:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It depends completely on how far the men take it. Usually comments about my appearance in general (from men or women) make me self conscious, but I understand when someone's just trying to be nice and complimentary and I don't attribute my discomfort to that person. So a simple "You look nice today," is perfectly okay with me. Or even a whistle or a wink and a smile. Those always make me smile in return, or even blush a little. It hasn't got anything to do with how the guy looks; since when do you have to be good looking just to give a compliment? I think women that respond negatively to *respectful* comments from men need to get their asses off of their shoulders and learn a little common respect. If someone thinks enough to give you a compliment, then at least say thank you. Even if you're not interested in return, just say thanks and keep walking.
My only complaint is the derogatory language guys can use that's really offensive to me. Referring to me as a b*tch or sl*t, and loudly commenting to each other about the shape of my rear end or the size of my breasts as if I were nothing more than a piece of meat is ridiculous - completely over the top and disrespectful. The same goes with following me and staring incessantly. I think the best rule of thumb is to imagine how you'd feel if someone were acting that way toward your mother or sister, and then act according to how acceptable you think that is.
2006-12-10 23:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how often it happens and what kind of stares those are.
I don't mind it if it just happens occationally and I might feel slightly flattered or feel kind of sorry for (yet subtly laugh at) men when they get so badly distracted by me that they almost walk into a street lamp. If I'm being stared at all the time, that bothers me.
I've experienced both of those, getting some stares when dressed up nicely and looking good for a special occation while normally not attracting much attention, and having literally every man staring and almost drooling at the sight of me (hint: I'm a blonde and have travelled to a lot of countries). The former can be flattering because it doesn't happen all the time, but the latter bothers me. It's usually funny on the first day, weird on the second day and flat out annoying after that. I don't like being stared at all the time and having men of all ages perving at me. And I never like harassment.
2006-12-11 08:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by undir 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was a young lady, the comments made me feel very self-conscious and even embarrassed. Now at 42 I love it, as long as it is not too offensive.
Peace :)
2006-12-11 03:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by rezany 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who the men are. If I find them attractive then I think of it more as a complement. But if its like gross guys it just feels more like harassment.
2006-12-11 02:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It makes me feel that to them, I'm just what you see on the outside, and not anything on the inside. However, my outside is much more underappreciated than my inside that it's nice to have it appreciated once in a while, but not to the point where I feel like they're imagining me naked, which would make me really uncomfortable.
There are more acceptable ways to compliment a girl than making cat calls, such as telling her she has pretty eyes, smile, nice outfit, etc. Nothing too sexual.
2006-12-11 09:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow i read some of these answers and i was kinda shocked...i dont no about any1 else but wen im woking down the street and some random guy says sumthing im rly disturbed...its almost like he's eyeraping u...lol. but if its meant in a nice way then i guess its ok
2006-12-11 02:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Usually it's annoying bcuz I feel like if you have something on your mind about me come talk to me. You kinda look like a dork just spouting things off and you don't say anything to me otherwise.
2006-12-11 02:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ronka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what they are staring at and how stupid the comment they say!
2006-12-11 02:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat1640 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what I am wearing. If I am showing boobs or legs than it flatters me. If I'm fully covered than it flatters me alot.
2006-12-11 02:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by Allie K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I always thought it was flattering. As long as they didnt touch me, I didnt care what they said.
2006-12-11 09:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by jenniferaboston 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋