I have a friend.. We laugh, flirt, we bump up against each other... we talk on the phone for hours, I go to her house (just to talk) we've hugged (friendly hugs). Here's the thing.. I'm married with kids, and she has a boyfriend.... Are we just "good" friends or are we having an affair ????
P.S. I want to kiss her.. HELP!!!!
2006-12-10 18:49:27 · 7 answers · asked by another nickname 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is an affair because in your mind you want it to be more. Regardless of what it is you sound very much as if you want things to be more.
2006-12-10 18:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to back off from this friendship BIG TIME. It may be a healthy friendship but not healthy for your relationship with your wife or family. How would you feel if your wife had a male "friend" and did the same thing?? If you want to kiss her...that is crossing the line, you have a wife and she has a boyfriend. DO NOT go any further than you have gone. You may not be cheating sexually (yet) but you are definitely cheating emotionally. Talking on the phone for hours?? Sounds a bit suspicious to me. Think about how you are hurting your family.....that should be enough of an incentive to stop this before it leads to more disaster.
2006-12-10 18:57:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets say you over hear your wife telling a friend of hers that (lets call him Andy) comes over very day as soon as you go to work. you hear her say nothing has happened yet but i really want to kiss Andy .we have fun flirting and we find reasons to bump up against each other. and girlfriend we can talk for hours over the phone.( now remember she does not know you are standing there over hearing her talking to a girl friend) would you thinking oh how nice she made a new friend or are you quietly listening to see how long this affair has been going on?
2006-12-10 19:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by BLOODHOUND 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a difficult position, the urges are definitely there and close for an affair. For other people, it is an already an affair but both of you denies it because you're both simply enjoying each other's company. Somewhat it will end up both of you having sex if at least one of you puts a limitation on you situation.
I know, it's extremely hard to resist the temptation.
2006-12-10 19:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Spurs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT YET. But now youve got urges so you have stop it before you ruin your life with your wife, the woman you married and your kids, your own flesh and blood. Its fine to be friends, best friends even, but once youre thinking of kissing (or even comitting emotional infidelity) its cheating, its an affair. Stop it now while you still have the control to do so.
2006-12-10 18:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by stormsandblues 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to feel the wrath of her boyfriend and your wife and the sadness, disappointment and confusion of your kids?
There's no real affair here, but you are playing with fire.
It's ok to be friends with others, but just respect the feelings of others and their place in the relationships they have and want.
The kids and your wife don't get a choice, but you have a choice to end up in a horror story or a happy-ever-after (?) with the fruit of your loins (kids) and the one you said "I do." to when you declared your love for her (your wife).
2006-12-10 18:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your wife...and stop being a jerk...you have no business doing that...
2006-12-10 19:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋