2006-12-10 18:48:54 · 21 answers · asked by luvinstead 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Spanking should not be a form of punishment at all.. it makes it worse that the person doing the corporal punishment is not related to the child at all. If you are the real parent you should be doing all the punishing and the significant other should not be allowed to do anything to your child besides time outs.
2006-12-10 18:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
First of all you do not spank a child. If you can not handle your child without bodily harm than you are not doing a good job.
Your partner should not touch the child. What if you two brake up, what kind of message are you sending your child? You have to protect your child from everybody, even your live in partner. If the child really needs a spanking then only from the parent, dont let him think anybody can harm him. My little child has a stepfather and he would never touch the child, if she needs punishing then we take away what she loves most - tv.
Good Luck
2006-12-11 10:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by eidunotno 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only the legal father has the right. If your partner is just a boyfriend even a serious boyfriend and has no custody over the child, its a BIG NO! (If he is the father, then according to my maths, the child would be way to young for any kind of spanking)
2006-12-11 03:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by lew_lewisje 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats a tough one. Personally I dont think spanking is the best form of teaching your child right from wrong...
Hpwever, even if you give your child a light spanking for being naughty, if your partner does it, your child may form a deep resentment towards him with the attitude of 'he's not even my dad and he hits me'
Just a thought
2006-12-11 07:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by kimison_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope... I don't care if we are together 25, 50, 75 years my children are not raised with physical assault/ corperal punishment..
I do not believe physical assault is an appropriate form of punishment ever... It teaches that the adult gets thier way because they are bigger than the child.. It teaches the child that physical violence is an acceptible means of getting compliance...
If my partner (husband) ever spanked any of my children I would first be shocked as he does not believe in spanking either... Then I would call a divorce attorney because I could not respect a man who used his size to induce compliance..
2006-12-11 04:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it depends upon the relationship. I assume this looks to be a long term relationship. If your partner is playing a parental type role and they have bonded in this way, and you have faith in their ability to properly discipline your child, then I think it is fine.
This is probably unnecessary to mention. But they need to know how you approach spanking --when should it be done--is it just a last resort (I hope not), how hard, bare bottom or not, paddle or hand, etc.
And it is probably a good thing. If your partner is caring for your child at times and you are gone then it is going to be necessary to discipline at times. And the "wait until your Mom gets home" is not really all that effective.
2006-12-11 03:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
NO
no one should be hitting your child unless your married
or unless you say its ok
why would you even want to hit your child thats a terrible thing
no matter how bad they act its still to reason to beat a child
2006-12-12 07:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by paul_x_walker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just my opinion, partners or new husbands/wife's should never give out a spanking. I am all for spankings as punishment but NEVER by a boyfriend/girlfriends, and only in VERY rare circumstances new husbands/wife's
2006-12-11 03:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Depending on whether or not you feel comfortable with it.If you plan to be with this person long term then that is something you have to discuss with him along with your guidelines that you have set.Your child will have to look toward him as a authority figure as well as you and back up your disipline as well as you his to be consistant,but he should know too that you will not tollerate overstepping the boundaries you have set.
2006-12-11 02:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by **BLu Tinkerbell** 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if the child is being a brat, yes, if you dont want the child diciplined then make the kid listen and act like a human being. If the guy is too strict, draw the line and or throw him out.
2006-12-11 02:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋