Conversation?

Question

What do you do If you are just generally untalkitave. I'm not necessarily shy, just bad at starting and/or keeping conversations, finding interests, etc. So I can easily go up to most people and tell them something, but conversation, flirting, and reaching out to meet new people are some of my weak points. I'm also unusually shy around girls I like. I know that is natural, but it's something I want to reduce.

Answer 1

You have to look at yourself and see what they will see. Once you find all the things you like about yourself no matter what it is then you will have a sense of being that is a little higher. Know that you are worthy of knowing is the most important thing.

When there is a girl that you want to talk to then find something that she is interested in and ask her about it. If you know something about it then great if not maybe she could tell you. I am sure people will tell you to be your self but until you find who that is it is hard.

Just keep in mind that you are not a bad person. you are just worried about what others will think of you if you say the wrong thing during a conversation. Don't worry about it to much.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You've already started. Believe it or not. You're answering Qs on here. Keep writing your thoughts, for one thing. Keep up on what's current in the world so when you do open your mouth, you have something intelligent to say. And then practice, practice, practice!

Whenever you get a chance at even a little conversation with someone comfortable (friends, family, the mailman) take advantage of it. Soon, you'll feel much more relaxed about speaking up. You are very articulate, by the way, and I'm sure you'll do fine.

Answer 3

first of all you should read a lot. having a wide general knowledge will make it easier to talk about stuff to almost anyone.

then you should be BIG on SMALL talk. e.g: if you talking to me and you asked me where im from, after i give you my answer, dont just say "oh, okay, thats cool". you need to elaborate and probably ask me if i have always lived here, do i like it, where do i go for fun etc. see, its all about keeping the conversation flowing, even with small points like where a person stays.

another trick to appear like you are talkative is to always tell people what you are thinking. when socialising, it doesnt matter WHAT you tell a person about what you THINKING because there is no wrong, or right thoughts.
anyway, a person who thinks differently from others is always considered interesting. and this is a plus when socialising. we all love interesting, different people.

and last but not least, "if you cant dazzle them with brilliance,
baffle them with bullshit" ! you gotta step up on you confidence to do this. trust me, people just love it!!

HAV FUN

Answer 4

practice, practice, practice. i know how you feel, and it can only get better with practice. talk to girls that you don't even like, just to talk to them. just talk to people around you, at work or at school. i wouldn't recommend writing down topics and trying to memorize them in your head tho. conversations should be natural and not forced.

Answer 5

well first, you must have confidence.. but not too much.. and just be yourself and let the conversation flow as it is.. think of interesting topics and not just the getting-to-know-each-other questions.. add some humor to your topics.. well i must admit that i have the same problem as you have, but im also working it out now.. goodluck to us..

Answer 6

you have to work on your weak points. take it slow get used to talking to different people and carrying on a conversation. get in chat rooms and start there. you'll learn different topics to bring up.

Answer 7

just be yourself dude.shyness is not necessarily a weakness.use it as your strength.personally,talkative men annoys me.

Answer 8

you need to get something to make you hyper... drink a pot of coffee before you go around others... you wont be quit after that..

Answer 9

i would like to know that answer too. im the same way

Answer 10

shy??