2006-12-10 18:23:31 · 15 answers · asked by Chi78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Set some boundaries for yourself. Learn to be assertive. Nice guys don't have to let women walk all over them. In fact, women prefer a guy with a "backbone", and can make his own decisions.
Don't be so "nice" that you let women walk all over you and take advantage of you. Build your confidence. Everyone likes a confident person.
You can still be a nice guy without becoming a badboy type, and still attact women. Be courteous, be yourself, be confident, be self-assured, be assertive... Above all, remain respectable.
How can you become more confident and successful?
- Look for a model (someone who is confident) and learn from them. What is it they do that makes them confident, how do they act?
- Focus on your achievements and even if you failed try to work out what you did right and how you could succeed next time
- Act as if you were confident!
- Prepare thoroughly for any task so that you can be sure you are ready
- Work on any skills you need to do what you want, you can never be overtrained or over skilled for any challenge in life.
- Learn relaxation skills
- Always smile
- Set reachable goals for yourself
- Reward yourself when you succeed
And look people in the face when you're talking with them. :-) Don't let people boss you around... You don't have to do things for people to please them. Take care.
2006-12-10 18:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the "nice guy" in that phrase applies to the nice guy who will do anything, say anything, be anything the girl wants him to be. Girls are looking for a nice guy who can stand up for himself and isn't afraid to say what's on his mind. Don't start becoming an asshole, stay nice, a great girl will come along and appreciate your niceness :)
2006-12-11 02:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Di 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't believe this one to start if you think that you are finishing last because you are the nice guy.
Move far away from that person..That is not fair for you!
2006-12-11 02:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by ~Mysti~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. You should just be you and wait for the one girl who will notice the nice guy that you are. You shouldn't have to change yourself to be with someone. You just be you.
2006-12-11 02:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by just another girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that used to be me. The way I solved it? When you know what you want, go after it. IF you dont peopel are always going to step all over you and if theres a lady you want, she will always want someone else...who isnt afriad to talk. Also, working out seemed to help. Ladies liek a nicetoned body.
2006-12-11 02:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nice guys finish last in the sprints
but they come first in the mile
in the long run being nice is worth it
=)
2006-12-11 02:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by India 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All girls don't go after the assholes. Theres always that one girl looking for a guy that will treat her right...don't change ;)
2006-12-11 02:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of girls are looking for "nice guys".
You don't have to change yourself to get girls to like you, just be yourself.
2006-12-11 02:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont change . i love nice guys
2006-12-11 02:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. don't be so nice. You can only be so nice to a woman. Don't be weak. Be an alhpa male.
2006-12-11 02:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Just trying to help 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋