I know this is going to sound insane but here it goes. I know that im wrong and i admit i need help, im being admitted into the four winds hospital next week. My boyfriend, who i love very very much says he doesnt love me anymore. Is it true that you can fall out of love or is love really forever whether you choose to admit it or not Im abusive, physically and verbally. My boyfriend even tells me he knows for a fact that i have no idea im hitting him when i hit him. And i dont, i dont realize until much later .he came to my house tonight and i said so icant kiss you and he said no so i tried to anyway, and he moved his head, the finalyl he kissed me back. and he said i didnt want to kiss you back because itd make me fall for youa gain and make me remember all the good times weve had and remind me how much i do care for you. and then he started to kiss me and then pretended to get distracted by something stupid 3 different times,
2006-12-10 17:52:55 · 11 answers · asked by idontevenknow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i said " are you pretending to get distracted just so you dont have to kiss me?" and then he grabbed me and tilted my over,,held the back of my head and had his other hand on my face and kissed me, it was the sweetest kiss ever. and then he asked me back out. andi said yes.were dating, but i just found out he doesnt want to date me, and he likes me but doesnt love me and that he doesnt want to date me but he is anyway and doesnt know why he is. i need help really bad. i dont know what to do or say to him, i want to keep him in my life. please help
2006-12-10 17:54:32 · update #1
You need to fix yourself before you can be in any kind of relationship. Good luck.
2006-12-10 17:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he pitys you cause he knows if he leaves you YOU WILL BE ALONE trust me girl NO MAN IN THEIR RIGHT MIND wants a woman beside him that hits and bad mouths him it sounds like to me that maybe your inlove with the idea of how he makes you feel inside now if you could just keep that feeling forever maybe you would not need the man himself but just this wonderful feeling that never ends but personally it sounds like you had a bad expirence with men before maybe an abusive father-father figure or former boyfirend if so i would like you to remeber how that person made you feel like worse than trash or like a lost puppy stuck in the rain that no one wanted along came someone one day that fead and sheltered you but the price of all that was PAIN now maybe your starting to turn into that person that did all those horrible mean things to you and your boyfriend is in your shoes and maybe he's just starting to know how you feel. to own someone is to own a possession a HUMAN BEING is NOT a possession if this is your story and you cant get close to him than try writing a letter to him not about how sorry you are but how you got this way and then maybe an appoloige things need to just go slow like in the beginning and if you get a second chance dont let the beginning ever end for some people they can love everyday like it was the first day they meant that special person. and dont worry if you have to give it to someone else to give it to him if they do read it and read your story good they will not laugh at you sh!t girl they might be just like you another person in your corner they will be if this is your story their are alot of us out thier in the world more then you think we just can hide the scars most of the time (THE PRICE OF LOVE SHOULD NEVER BE PAID IN FULL FROM A BOUNTY OF PAIN).
2006-12-11 02:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by soki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both tearing each other apart. I think guys get confused as well as girls. Why don't you go somewhere it is neutral and have a drink and talk things out? Maybe it isn't as bad as you think...It seems like he wants you and you seem to want him...If the kiss was as good as you say it was...maybe he was just coming up for air. Grab for the ring...and please let me know...Hope is such a commodity right now..
2006-12-11 02:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well get thru the hospital deal 1st- you may be bi polar and need meds. he may need meds too ever think of this. perhaps both sadly of you 2 need help meds or therapy. quit listening to other people listen to a Dr.. its a sad situation what you 2 been thru. perhaps he feels obligated to help you by being with you. I think you need to think of your well being 1st take a breather. hope you all aren't on dope. you must have a disorder not to remember you hitting him. what if it was a knife? then what. next time it may have been worse.you need to heal and learn of whats going on. tell him you need to help yourself and he needs to back off and i think your Dr will tell both of you to get counseling and together in due time. I think he wants you to get better and he was being supportive by kissing although it wasn't the right way to do it. men get distracted he probably figures your all messed up and is beside himself what to think now i mean you hit him and its scary. for you and for him.
2006-12-11 02:06:53 · answer #4 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give you is to get him to realize that you are in the process of getting help, that you want to get help for yourself, for him, and for the sake of the relationship. If you are trying hard, let him know that change doesn't happen overnight, and also that you need his support when undergoing treatment.
You also need to do your part if you want this to work.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 02:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jackie W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is afraid if he leaves you completely you may harm him or even yourself. So he is trying to make you happy until you are in a more stable and clear state of mind. Leave him alone before you do something dumb.
2006-12-11 01:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by choco-vanilla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what you feel because to me.your lucky coz hes not yet your husband but me my husband cheated me..i still love him but i have to ait happend ccept the fact the we were not meant for each other. its really worst between me and my husband..hopwe you will solve your problem...my ex husband wants to come back with me but i didint accept him anymore even im still inluv with him.its hard for me to say goodbye but i have to because i dont to get anymore and i guess i gave my best and thats enough.gudluck and godbless
2006-12-11 02:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You abuse your boyfriend. He dates you but doesn't really want to.
I think he should be admitted to the hospital too.
2006-12-11 01:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by maamu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offence you sound really lame... he said he doesnt love you then he doesnt love you... why dont you just let him go and move on
2006-12-11 01:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make no sense..girl...don't understand what the heck you just wrote...sorry
2006-12-11 01:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋