Am I really thinking too much???

Question

my ex broke up with me 3 mths ago. And the situation goes like this:

Right after 1 month of the break up, I wrote on my msn nick saying that I still love him. Then it immediately came with a corresponding msg on his msn which goes like this "even if u cannot hear my voice, I'll be right beside u dear". Since then, he has been putting up love song lyrics, with words and meanings like i love u and i miss u...etc. I find it reali misleading and began to question myself if he's hinting for a patch back? when finally I decided to stop all the guessings, I sms to ask him and he said I think too much. Those were juz song lyrics that meant nothing! And I was kind of reprimanded by him for accusing him that since those words were not for me, then it muz be for his new gf! he told me he's still single! WTF is he doing!? I reali hate to see wads on his msn nick cos its so misleading, making me reminiscing the past n carrying hopes for him n yet can't bear to delete his contact

If he knew it will lead to misunderstanding, then y does he still put up all those **** on his msn!? doesn't he have a heart? simply too selfish to take other people's feeling into consideration??????

Answer 1

Delete him, exercise your power !

You have had your time with him and now it is the moment to remove him from your contacts and move on with your life.

Answer 2

No I think you are right to question this one. It's not normal, he definetly wants to get back togethor. However, just be asking the question shows that you have some doubts. It's not right to tell someone "they think too much." It's controlling behaviour.

There is something wrong and your instincts that he has a wife or another girlfriend are right on. By saying "you think too much" he's making it sound like you are at fault. You sound young, but one thing you learn is that dishonest or bad people always sound like the nicest, most genuine and most honest person on the face of the earth. And they always play the game -- I'm so nice that there must be a problem with you. He repremanded you for questioning him? That definetly is a bad sign that he may be a manipulator.

If your boyfriend doesn't allow your to question him or make you feel bad about questioning him, then there is a reason why he doesn't want you to question him and so he tries to make you feel bad for doing so.

The problem when you get into a relationship with someone who cheats is that they treat you so well and are so nice that some part of you wants to keep that feeling of being loved.

Ask yourself this question. Are you worth honesty? Are you worth talking over problems that bother you and get an honest answer. Of course you are. When he said you think to much he was demeaning you and showed his hand of exactly how much you are worth. He's told you you are not worth an honest answer or you are not worthy enough to question him.

Drop kick him so hard that he lands in a new zip code.

Answer 3

Yes, you answered your own question hon, you are thinking too much, I'll confirm that if you are in doubt.

It's easy to be knocked down quickly in a breakup. It's hard to get back up and push past him as he is living "rent free" in your head and heart, that goes slow.

This will either be a situation you will carry around as cargo, or it can be baggage that you now have, but have turned it into a world class quality "Louis Vutton" bag and will only accept the finest of gentlemen to handle.
Yes, I am a mother if girls...can't you tell? ;)

You're going to be blessed as soon as you respect that man's choice to break up with you. Men who can't break up, but want to, eventually cheat...give the guy respect for that, but nothing more.

Answer 4

This kind of guy you have been hooked up with and now broke
up with him is not a good one.You are lucky that now you are free
to find someone much much much better than this guy.Believe
me I have known several low down people like this.You have to
thank God that you are free at last before you go deeper with
this kind of relationship.

Answer 5

Reminds me of an old song from a girl group that went like this...

"Too many fish in the sea".

Time to move on girl.

Get yourself somebody who will make a life with you, because you sound like a sincere person who will make a loyal and trusting mate for somebody special.

Good luck.

Answer 6

sweetie, do yourself a favor and delete his contact. it sounds like he's just messing with your head, and having a good old time doing it. when guys do things like this, it's just a great big ego trip for them. you just stop feeding his ego. and the first step to doing that is to delete him. next, stop talking to him, he doesn't deserve your time! and when you see him, ignore him! he had no reason to be so rude as to reprimand you like you were a child who'd done something wrong. and no, you're not thinking too much. you're just thinking about him too much. now go delete him okay?!!
you deserve better! Good Luck With Everything

Answer 7

He's stringing you along. Wanting to keep you on a short rope so that if he finds out "hey the grass aint so green on this side i'll go back to her" dont let it happen. Cut off all contact.

Answer 8

You can NEVER think too much. Oh wait ... I guess you can. You are, actually. Forget this guy. If he says he's done, you have got to forget him. Focus on becoming the girl who does not need that chump any more, who has herself taken care of, and has lots to give to the next guy ... if he's good enough.

Answer 9

i think you must ignore him.. dont show him that you still love him and you want him back.. instead show him how good you are now that you split up.. his actions are misleading because he's just playing... he wants you to want him more but at the end, he will not take you back... just ignore him and move on..

Answer 10

sweetie my kids dad and I have been over for 3 years and I love him more then anything and see him everyday it sucks and hurts sorry no advice.