I think i have anger issues ..?

Question

I have alot of trouble dealing with anger, Im 17 years old and Have just cant stand **** any more , i acctually hit my girlfriend and she you know just looked at me like **wow** and it was just bad.... dude and ive been taking alot of **** out on my son too.. its just gotten really bad wtf should i do about this

Answer 1

call a health care professional and get some anger resolution classes

Get some parenting help with your child, first and foremost, think about how this will affect your son later...

You are young and it sounds like you have a lot on your plate, get some help, not from the internet...

People do care about you and hope you get some help

Answer 2

Did you say 'your son'? and you are only 17.
If you are a father at 17 I can understand why you have anger issues. But hitting any woman is just not right, for any reason..
You need to talk to someone (an adult) who you can trust, who
would be willing to work with you.
Someone you look up to, who you admire.
If thats not possible check with a local hospital and find out if they have anger management classes, most do.
If yours don't then ask them if they can suggest somewhere that
does.
If you can't afford professional help then apply for help through
Medicaid, you should qualify because you have a child.
When someone has children and can't afford medical help they can get help through the Medicaid program.
You have such a big burden on your shoulders, being a father at
such a young age. I feel this is what has caused you to react
so aggresively. You must get help somehow before you 'really'
hurt someone, including yourself..
I will pray that you will get GOOD help.

Answer 3

You THINK you have anger issues is a true understatement.

I hope this is not true and you are bored and attempting to be amusing.
How do you have a child at 17 years old? Any time you hit anyone, (much less your girlfriend) you need major help. Your language is uncalled for and so is your behavior.

I think you should go to an adult that is in your life and talk to them about securing help for you as soon as possible. If you don't seek out help immediately you are going to be in a mess that you might not be able to get out of...........................I am sure you would rather do that than spend time in jail for something that your anger did for you.

Answer 4

You are going to need help -- people don't trust you if you take your own emotional sh** out on them by beating them or badmouthing them. You know that. But, god, at least you know you need help! That's the first step, and good for you for knowing it!

Are you still in high school? Maybe the guidance office can give you some recommendations. If you don't want them to know your problems, they still might be able to refer you to some place. There are also child-abuse hotlines that may be able to help you.

But you still have to do a lot of the work yourself. Figure out why you are so mad (you probably have really good reasons!) and figure out how to use that anger positively -- like fixing stuff, working as a victim's rights advocate, working as a counselor. Figure out what you *really* want, and how you can use your anger's energy to get you where you want to be!

You can do this. It's going to be tough, and you're going to feel like beating up on things littler and more helpless than you -- but you will get stronger if you work on it. Ask for help, and take responsibility for turning your life around!

The great thing is that you *do* have this passion, this anger available to you. It may be scary, but it gives you a lot of energy to do things -- turn that energy to good!

Answer 5

You do need to get help. First of all, make an appointment with your doctor and discuss this with him/her.

Next time you feel the urge to lash out, remember to just STOP, turn away and walk into another room and count to 50 or something. Take deep, calming breaths. Don't hurt the ones you love. I hope you get help soon!!!

Answer 6

Look up social services in your town and try to find a psycologist to speak to. Get exercise. Drink only water or juice. Smoke a little weed and meditate. You gotta put love out there.

Answer 7

I've had anger issues my whole life (I'm 24 now).. only I didn't realize them until earlier this year. I would punch holes in the walls, fridge, break things, do all kinds of stupid shi* all the time over the tiniest thing that irritated me.

I'm not here to point the finger at someone for what they've done... if you are truly ready to make a change then I will tell you what I know. I don't think anyone can blame the way they were raised on their anger issues, as its all on them to admit it is their own problems and they are the ones who need to do something to improve on them. Its basically the whole mentality of "step up and be a man about it". With that being said....

First thing I can tell you, and alot of this will sound corny as fuc* but if you're REALLY ready to learn to control your issues and step up, is to take a moment and just think about what kind of things set you off. Make a list if you have to. Write down anything and everything you can think of, from big things that have made you snap to the tiniest things that happen even daily that make you want to say fuc* it.

Now look at what you've written, and really think about how you handled each incident. Having anger issues is like when little kids have temper tantrums. Kids go into those fits thinking if they kick and scream, they will get their way. Now you probably feel like some pathetic kid for how you handled the situation. So far so good. Like I said, corny aside, you can admit your own flaws and mistakes so you can learn to fix them.

I don't know if you smoke (weed) or drink, but all those things only make you less reasonable. I still drink from time to time, but I know that when I do, I need to be careful so I don't wake up with another set of swollen knuckles.

Now that you've seen a list of some of the things that set you off and how you acted, think about how you WILL act and how you WANT to act the next time something like that happens. Its honestly all about learning self control. Like when something pisses you off or irritates you, take a second and think about what you might do, then look at a more rational way of handling it.

Its not an overnight change, and if you're anything like me, you will get frustrated quickly and want to say fuc* it and quit every time. But look at it like this, you're only 17... you're still developing your mind and personality, and how you act over the next few years will set how you will be down the road. If you really want to help yourself, focus hard on not giving up on calming down a bit. I know its not as simple as that, but over time, learning to curve your temper can become a normal habit that you won't think about.

Aside from all that, just talking about it openly can help you. Whether you talk to someone you know or just vent to complete strangers online that you don't need to worry about judging you, getting out some thoughts will help. If you play any instruments, write music. That's what I generally do.

The hardest part will be asking for those you've hurt to forgive you and learn to slowly trust you again that you are trying to improve. Again, not an overnight change, but in time people will learn when you've become sincere, and it sounds like you may have a few apologies to make. Once you truly see how hard it can be to get some to honestly forgive you, it can really drive someone to try harder than ever before to improve... but in the end, its all about how badly do YOU want to improve?

Of course getting professional help from a physician or therapist will also help greatly, although I know how it can be sometimes trying to believe you're paying some proffesional who doesn't "talk" the same language as you for advice.

Hope some of this gives you some perspective and will help you find the right actions to take to start getting better. I apologize again if this sounds like a Dr. Phil special LOL, but really its that kind of mentality you may need.

Good luck bro for real!

Answer 8

FIRST OF ALL I AM GLAD TO SEE THAT YOU KNOW THAT YOU DO HAVE A PROBLEM TO BE AS YOUNG AS YOU ARE. BUT BEFORE YOU HIT 18 WHILE EVERY THING IS STILL FREE I SUGGEST YOU TO GET SOME COUNSELING QUICK.SURE THE COUNSEL IS GOING TO PISS YOU OFF MORE BUT IT IS FOR THE BEST. HOPE YOU THE BEST.

Answer 9

take some anger managment courses. my friend has anger problems and she said anger managment helps.

Answer 10

Seek psychiatric help to figure out why you have these anger issues.