He left me years ago with no explanation, and I never heard from him again. I DON'T WANT HIM BACK, but because I never had any closure on the situation, I sure am curious as to why he left with no word. I recently moved across town and have started to see him while I've been out and about (purely coincidence, I had no idea he was even still around here). I've figured out that he's married, and I am in a relationship that I have no desire to put in jeopardy; I love my fiance very much. Still, I have some unanswered questions, and it's driving me nuts! How do I go about making contact with him without looking like I want him back? I just want to know what the disappearing act was all about. Even after all this time, I still think he owes me an explanation. We've both seen each other in a couple of social situations but neither of us has made the first move to even say "hello".
2006-12-10 17:34:20 · 8 answers · asked by Stephanie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea well i know exactly what you mean. There are many reasons for no closures but don't take it personally perhaps he has issues. You moved on so did he. perhaps he wasn't mature many reasons. perhaps you were to young then. I would casually say hi because nothing he will say will make you feel better or make it all disappear of the wonders of what you went thru- nothing. I'm sure he has no desire to reach out and explain otherwise he would've. Something happened perhaps a sexuality issue of himself or scared of seriousness.The fact is your happy now. now .. and yay.. and your very desirable obviously to have met someone who treated you right;.You could say next time before you drive your whole life nuts in your retiring hrs.. hey .. i never felt like i got a closure of what happened.. why we ended.. i mean i never saw it coming and i need to know so it wont happen again with my mate now i need clues as i was clueless and leave it in his lap to answer don't argue, do interrupt just hear him out and drop it if you can get that far. I really don't think he will have an answer.
2006-12-10 17:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with small talk! Ask him how things are going. He'll make sure not to *bump* into you again if he's afraid you'll bring up the past. I'd suggest asking about it casually. You two don't need to be hunkered over cups of coffee kicking around the past. You could be reaching into the same refrigerator case at the quick trip and just ask! So, why did you take off on me, I'd really like to close that chapter, what was up? Maybe he'll snorkel off some lame remark that would let you know there's no chance of finding out the real reason or, maybe he'll walk you towards your car and actually say something believeable. Either way, he's a jerk-wad for having ditched your relationship without ever making amends for it. You've lost nothing but time trying to figure it out. Give yourself a present this year, let it be the last year you waste spending two seconds second guessing yourself. Believe me, it was all him.
Good luck to you!
=)
2006-12-10 17:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by Renny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not problem. this can not make you undesirable. each and every so often, females only favor to techniques to relax. each and everything is going to be nice. he's having some flings yet as you regretted dishonest on Kenny, he regretted dishonest on you. although, boys do not say what they experience sorry about to women. do not ignore that! Its has to do with their ego. they don't opt for human beings to imagine they're incorrect. besides, Kenny is attracted to his third cousin. He does not experience as strongly for her as he does for you. finally, he will opt for to get decrease back with you. Wait some weeks boyfriend a lot less. I advise you sound truly clingy as in case you consistently favor someone round you. once Kenny notices you, he will opt for you so badly that he will do virtually some thing to get you. he will commence courting you.
2016-11-30 10:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might never answer your question. If I were you, I'd just leave it. You might get the answer you don't want to hear. The first mistake would be to ask him what's up disappearing and getting no answer. the Second mistake would be wanting to ask even more. It's better left alone.
2006-12-10 17:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by bears_and_kittens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu think he may owe you an explanantion- he would probably tell you a lie anyway- esp since he did not approach you- and say]anything- it is curious though- I might say hi- and take his answers w a grain of salt- D
2006-12-10 17:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
12 yrs...has past, act like you don't give a rat a$$...don't give him the time of day, or let him know it still bothers you since the 12 yrs...has passed...and your asking will make you look like a hurt woman, don't let him know it has been bothering you all this time..he isn't worth it....
2006-12-10 17:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just try saying something, that normally helps
2006-12-10 17:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk. Just have sex.
2006-12-10 17:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋