I can totally relate to this problem. The only thing you've done to not reinforce the behavior is to ignore her. However, if you give in after a while, she gets the message, 'if i whine long enough, i get what i want.'
We dealt with this at our house. This doesn't work for everyone, but it was quite effective in our house. I had a piggy bank. Labeled it the whiny jar. Everytime my son started that whining, I'd make him put a nickel in the jar. We collected a great deal of nickels initially, but after about a week, he started catching himself and the behavior began to dissappear. Not for everyone, but it can't hurt to try.
2006-12-10 17:21:29
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answered by thestral 1
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We had the same problem with my 6yr old girl. She would use a whiny voice when she wanted something or needed help, or to tell on her brother. We did not know how to deal with it and at our first parent teacher interveiw at school earlier this year her teacher told us she is a fantastic child, but the whining has got to go! The teacher would just say to her, I am not going to listen until you speak properly. We started to do the same thing at home and within 2 weeks we noticed a huge change, even her teacher was happy with the result. Perhaps you could talk to her teacher or anyone else she spends alot of time with and find out if she behaves the same way with them, if so form a united front and tackle this problem together, you just might find that some one else is able to stike a chord that resonates with Miss 6. Good luck.
2006-12-10 17:37:35
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answered by Anonymous
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You have to find out what is wrong with her
kids don't whine for nothing
she is either sick or bullied at school or you aren't giving her any attention
females like to talk & to be listened to
so try listening to her
if you ignor her now she wont be close to you when she grows up
there can be heaps of reasons why she whines
but it is never for nothing
she needs you by the sound of it
2006-12-10 17:27:00
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answered by ausblue 7
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I was the same way with my parents when I was younger. They just kept doing the same thing; putting me in my room, standing their ground as the parents. Maybe they spoiled me as a child but the situation may be different from yours. Just keep doing the same thing and after a while, she'll learn. If that doesn't work, try nanny 911 lol
2006-12-10 17:26:02
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answered by Anonymous
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As she is six, and your husband is her step-dad, it may be that she is acting out about your remarriage. Counselling may help if that's the case.
But another tactic that sometimes works is whining back at her. She might just think you sound funny enough that she'll start laughing. And if she does that, you've got her!
2006-12-10 17:22:18
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answered by old lady 7
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You can try to discipline her with consistency rather than changing all the time. She whines and cries to get your attention and obviously she has it. Yelling at her is going to do no good, that only proves to her that she CAN get your frustrated and loose control. I suggest to keep putting her in her room and then grabbing ear phones.
2006-12-10 17:37:24
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answered by Anonymous
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think of what is valuable to her. Is it her dolls? Her trips to McDonald's, her puzzles? Whatever she values is your key. Put a monthly calender on the refrigerator. If she has a bad day put a red x on that day. If she has 3 bad days in a row, she cannot have her dolls for 1 day, or whatever her passion is. Be firm and don't give in. Keep it up.
2006-12-10 17:45:17
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answered by winkcat 7
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regardless of you do do not hit them with a brush or something for that rely. you do not could hit an animal nor even a newborn to discipline them. And besides, once you strike them out of anger they see that as you dropping administration which makes them think of you're susceptible and in the event that they see you as susceptible they gained't admire you because of the fact the alpha chief and could in all likelihood cry greater because of the fact they are left a lone with somebody who can not shop it below administration. the terrific element to do is forget approximately approximately them. they could see that they are in a position to't do issues to get their way. An exercising to attempt is do not make a fuss in any way shape or variety purely upward push up and pass to the bathing room. do not even properly known your dogs. stay of their for about 30 seconds then come out and compliment him. basically a pat on the pinnacle and a "good boy/woman" could artwork. purely shop doing this some circumstances an afternoon or week and postpone the circumstances you reside interior the bathing room. Do it for 30 seconds for some circumstances then the subsequent week make it a minute or so. each and every time you come out compliment him or provide him considered one of his toys. (Sneak it interior the bathing room with then you definately provide it to him once you come out.) you're able to do the same element with going exterior. enable him cry or whine yet come returned in and purely provide him slightly compliment. Then he will seem forward to once you pass away because of the fact he's conscious of once you come returned he would be praised the two with love or toys. He then learns to associate you leaving as a very good element. My basset hound had extreme seperation stress while i might pass away yet he found out to recover from it on his very own. So did my beagle who I accompanied from a shield. She besides found out to recover from it. i think of those that have been in a cage and then pass to a house to be left on my own have a prior concern that purely desires some nurturing yet there are all kinds of supplies on line that might assist you with any domestic dog guidance tip mandatory. do purely a google seek or yahoo seek. There are consistently human beings accessible waiting to help. good success.
2016-10-18 02:28:06
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answered by ? 4
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she sounds bored, may be she needs to be at school or getting out of the house more, try giving her one on one time and give your self's a break get a babysitter once a week and enjoy the time away from her, she will grow out of it, it most likely just a stage
2006-12-10 20:00:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Give that poor girl something to do. And Give her positive reinforcement for doing it. Tell her thank you and she might do something for you because you did something for her.
2006-12-10 17:34:08
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answered by Caffiene Junkie 4
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