I'm a male - 20 years old. I have a friend that I have been good friends with for about 4 - 4.5 years. We are best friends, but I like her as more than just that. She was dating a guy for about a year and a half.
About 4 months ago I told her how I felt. She told me that she didn't want her feelings for anyone else to interfere with her current relationship.
Her other relationship was not very serious and she broke it off about 2 weeks ago. I finally worked up the courage to ask her again and she told me that she couldn't because it would be weird and left the house without really saying anything else or talking to me about anything.
Now I'm stuck. I really like her and it will not be as easy as just accepting that we will only be friends. We are rooming for college together in Fall '07 so I don't want to ruin it - but I don't know if I will be able to be just her friend and watch her date other people again.
Please help me...
2006-12-10 16:56:54 · 8 answers · asked by Paintball Guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As painful as this is, it sounds like she's "just not that into you." If she reciprocated your feelings, she would have jumped at it one of the previous times you told her how you felt. Don't pressure her, and move on. If it's too painful to be her friend knowing the status of you two will never elevate, then you might have to end the friendship. However, the BEST thing you can do is get out there and see other women, and fall for someone new. Then you will have a relationship with someone who feels the same way about you AND a friendship with this girl. Best of luck to you!
2006-12-10 17:02:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You care for her a lot and in her own way she knows it. She is right that it would be weird to change the relationship, but you have been with her for about 5 years! I assume there is a level of trust, and she may have to accept the fact that you may be the one for her. She's hiding her feelings and when she says that she did not want her feelings for anyone to interfere with her current relationship kind of says that you are anyone. You are not just anyone and are not chopped liver. It seems as if your future and hers is somehow intertwined.
2006-12-10 17:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see what will happen. Don't push her too much, but be there for her. She may seem a little more interested when you guys live together. Plus things can change in a little less then a year. Just keep being nice and close to her. If it is meant for you two to date, then it'll happen. But don't loose her as a friend trying to do so.
2006-12-10 17:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by mke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be her roommate.You may have to change a few things up,but I don't think it's a good idea,because you will both feel awkward now and there will be lots of tension in the house,not a good way to stay focused on school.Also,you will meet more sexy girls at school and they will not be happy to know that you are rooming with a girl you have the hots for.It will be a menace to your future love life.Good luck.
2006-12-10 17:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a typical crush... a mere delusion of hope... My friend, you need to let it go, move on... and find other people out there... If you like her, but she doesn't see u the same way, then in the end it wouldn't work out regardless of how much u attempt or try to impress her... If i was you... I will begin to dilute my happiness and spend it with other people... have fun (w/o her) ... tell her you care and that regardless who she is with... as long as she is happy... then you are happy.. for her....and then, I would improve myself in every aspect... work out, be more social, study hard in school, be determine, motivated... in a way, respect yourself.... and do what is right for you... Ever read William Glassner? well, he is pretty good at describing choices in life and behaviors..... In the end, the situation is not in your favor right now... and the only thing you can control (theoretically) is your CHOICES and how YOU can deal with it... take my word.... better yourself... there will be people out there looking up to u and want to date you... if she was destine to be yours, She will Notice and Value you...... If not, pro-long this friendship.. and proceed to life's wonders at college.... why is true-love so rare?? -- to prove the Value of Love itself.. ..
2006-12-10 17:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, sometimes it's just the way things are. She's not interested. It's nothing against you. You would probably be smart to find another rommie. What girls hate more than anything else is a sap.
2006-12-10 17:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her
2006-12-10 16:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop it, you cant convince her,,,move on
2006-12-10 16:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by jaymegibow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋