Single moms...Do you ever feel life is better as a single mom?

Question

or harder?
I mean you dont have to ask anyone if (....)is ok to do, you dont need permission from the babies dad, you are the boss, you make all the descisions in your kids life.
Im not a single mom, but I think it would be easier as a single mom...esp, if your husband ALWAYS went against you like mine does...
Just to spite you.

Answer 1

its hard because all of the resonsibility is on you. my baby doesnt have a father so i dont know what its like to share that responsibility

Answer 2

I have been both a single parent and now a married parent... I never asked for permission to do as I chose I am an adult and need no ones permission...

There are upsides and down sides to being both a single and married parent... As a single parent there is never a break when someone else is completely incharge... Even with a babysitter you are still giving instructions.. As a married parent sometimes it difficult to show a united front...

If my husband were always undermining me and making it more difficult to be a parent I would leave... There is no reason to stay with someone who clearly doesn't respect you as an adult and treat you as such...

It sounds vry cliche but it's true... Children learn what they live... Are the lessons your children are leaning in your home the lessons you want them to inact when they are adults? If not things need to change and sometimes that change means seperation and divorce...

It is far better for a child to grow up in a stable single parent home than in a married home with fighting and disrespect etc.

Answer 3

all you gotta do is be social... talk to these girls usually if u dont get a girls number the first time u chill forget it... or if u get it and she doesnt call u back or disses u on the hangin out... forget about it.. But otherwise man I didnt even really start seeing girls until I was 23 and im 24 now... its kinda new to me but I went from having no girlfriends after high school to have 2 older girlfriends in the past year... I mean ive encountered my problems and have had my issues with things but u learn and live another day! and thats all you need 2 do is learn from everything and you will be fine... .I feel right now like imma be single for ever but I always end up finding her (whereever she is) and I have fun for a bit...I kinda feel like I have a problem with partying and smokin herb and drinkin 2 much and the girls im attracted to dont do that kinda stuff so its always conflicting...

Answer 4

~I've been both and having a husband to help raise our child was so much easier! After I left, I found I was unable to handle our daughter and took parenting classes so I wouldn't spank her, (she was too little). I didn't have my husband to back up what I told her to do, or not to do.
Now I bear the burden of having to do absolutely everything while he's out womanizing and not even paying Child Support. I know that in the end, I'll have a clear conscience of knowing I did my part.
You and your husband need to see a counselor. The child has learned, or will learn, that he can play one against the other and not have any consequences. I'm so sorry to hear that.~

Answer 5

I have been a "single mom" for 5 years now, and I love it. But I must say my daughters stepdad lives in the next house so we are both aktive in her life. I dont miss having another child in the house who cant pickup his underwear or who does not know how to the garbage out.
It looks like you are fustrated with your hubby. You will need to have a long talk with him. But I must say from my experience (my kids dad died when she was 2 1/2) a child needs a male figure in there lives. Good fathers give their children that part of life that we women can not show them.
So talk to your hubby and tell him whats fustrating you and that if it does not change, you will change it for him.
Good Luck

Answer 6

If your husband always goes against you in parenting then there are issues that NEED to be addressed and soon. My ex husband didn't go against what I said in as much as he really didn't pay attention. Yes my life as a mom became MUCH easier when I became single again. I was able to parent more effectively.

Answer 7

I am technically a single mom. I have a boyfriend that helps me, but my sons real father has never met his child. IT IS NEVER EASY. When my son is upset, I can't help but resent that fact that his father has left everything up to me. To wish that you were a single parent is wrong. A baby needs both parents in it's life, and doing it alone, while it can work, it is NEVER easy. I struggle each and every day to do the best for my child. I struggle each and every day to show him twice as much love, to make up for his father not being here. EVERY DAY I try to get his real father involved. My boyfriend tries his hardest to show my son a fathers love. It is a lot harder to be a single parent that to be partners.

Answer 8

Being a single mom was hard at times. I have a son and many times I wished his dad was in his life on a regular basis, but I enjoyed raising him and taking pride in the fact that he is now 23 years old and one heck of a wonderful human being. I am always in favor of two parent households, but I also know it can be successfully done by one parent with alot of love and patience.

Answer 9

Yes you are right, but then there is time's when my 9 year old does not listen to me, that's when I wish, he was here to step
in to discipline her. Other then that I am satisfiy to raise her by
myself. I don't have a problem with that. My 22 year old daughter scolds
her when she come over or when we are at their Apt. and I just
kick back and listen.