my ex dumped me on friday and told me that shes doing this cuz shes too stressed with school and stuff and that i should move on with my life but she doesnt want me out of her life fully. so i told her all or nothing and that since she picked nothing im leaving for good. she said its not that she doesnt want to be with me its that she cant handle the distance anymore so its over. after 11 months its over. im hurting so much right now. whats the point in love? why even date? why does it hurt so much?
2006-12-10 16:50:16 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is the whole point .. everyone goes through the heartaches at some point in their lives.. yet we can't stop loving .. Imagine life with out love .. now how boring with that be huh? Trust me next time you will find someone who truly loves and would stick by you .. yes it does hurt but life goes on .. and u should move on time is a healer good luck buddy
2006-12-10 17:07:30 · answer #1 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone.Everyone one this planet has gone through this more than once(if they're lucky),and it only makes you a cooler person in the end for having gone through pain,you gain understanding.You feel sad now,but if Angelina Jolie or some female just as hot were crying over being dumped,unless you had any experience in being dumped and learned how to move on,what help could you be to her.You would want to be helpful would'nt you.Compassion is attractive.And unfortunately,the only way to have it is by going through painful experiences.They make you more attractive,as odd as it sounds.Good luck.The hurt will subside when you meet a hot girl in the same boat.Ya'll can comiserate with eachother and she will appreciate your open heart.
2006-12-11 00:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is not always happy. . . face the fact that it would really hurt you. . .if you've been hurt. . then that's a proof that you really love her. . .
not all things that you want would go as you wanted it. . . .move on and learn from it. . .LOVE HURTS. . . before you love you must be ready to be hurt. . .
i know exactly what you felt. . . but i didn't regreted that i've loved and been hurt. . . instead im thankful . . though it's been hard nights for me. . . i take my experience of being hurt as an encouragement and inspiration. . . to show to the person that hurting me is not the end of my life. . but instead. . it will be the start of my new journey. . .
2006-12-11 01:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by cRiSsShHhH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because eventually you will find the right person for you, it is a process of trying and failing that makes you eleminate future mistakes. Plus it lets you know that you're capable of love and you enjoy the time you're in-love, only then you realize that it is something to look forward to instead of feeling the way you do at this particular moment.
2006-12-11 00:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by david l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all women are like her. the point is she's probably not the one for you. see i believe that god has someone for everyone and sometimes we have to go through all the bad all the heartache just to get to that one special person. I've been there done that. I dated a guy for 4 years thought he was the love of my life. thought he'd be the one i'd spend the rest of my life with. he wasnt. I wasted 4 years of my life and i thought whats the point. but the point is i found who i was supposed to be with he was waiting for me and i have been married to him for 4 1/2 years. things are great. I found my someone and so will you. dont settle for anything less than who you know your supposed to be with. good luck
2006-12-11 01:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does not kill you makes you strongeer. Your in pain because you love her. Love is not easy, it take hard work. Being and staying in love is harder than most jobs. You have to work at it and Both of you have to want to work at it. You pushed her in a corner by giving herr an ultimatium. She felt her back was against the wall so she jumped. ou should have gave her some space and then it wouldn't be hurting as bad as it is.
2006-12-11 00:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by choco-vanilla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
falling in love is part of living. The point of it is to live and experience one of the greatest feelings you can experience.
Losing love hurts so much because it feels so good when you have it. It is possible to love again when one love ends. the trick is not to close your heart completely when you get hurt. Not all relationships end in pain and sorrow.
2006-12-11 00:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by Eric K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
It does hurt....there is nothing you can do about it....but please know that time will heal everything....you must forgive her, and it will make it easier to move on....if your resent then it will take longer. All in all....the hurt WILL pass, and you will then come closer to the one that will matter in the end....I promise! Don't give up on love.....it is better to love then to not love at all!
2006-12-11 00:59:16 · answer #8 · answered by Louisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't date. The reason why many of today's youth are suffering the way you are right now is because they engage in relationships that are against the will of God for their lives. The best thing to do is to stay single and pray to God to preserve you until the time when HE gives you the right woman for you. God has set apart a woman only for you.. but HE will only reveal that to you at the right time and HE believes it's the right time. for the meantime, you have to focus first on the important things in life like your studies and pleasing God. Just wait for the right time and God will bless you.
2006-12-11 00:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately thats life - you love, you hurt and you learn from it.
Eventually you will find someone who will not want to hurt you and you will be happy.
Your friend is not leaving you for someone else - she is concentrating on important things - give her a break ..
Chances are you will do this to someone in the future so remember how it feels
2006-12-11 00:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋