Women only because they're the only ones who can read their own language...
I like this girl and we have great chemistry. We've been on a couple of dates. She has hurt someone in the past and has seen relationships end in the demise of friendships and doesn't want to go through that hardship herself.
I know that she wants a family but she says she isn't ready for a relationship now.
I completely understand her stance on this topic, but I also know that it doesn't make sense to hide for fear that something isn't going to work out, when there is a good chance that it might and something great might also come of it.
What do I do?
Also, do I continue to hold her hand? Rub her arm, leg, play with her hair? Ask her on dates?
Also, I understand, kinda:
What she's really saying is "Uh, get away from me now," or possibly "Try harder, stupid," but which one is it?
2006-12-10 16:42:28 · 5 answers · asked by dowboy98 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let her cool down for a while. Stop calling her or go on dates. Let her miss you more. Then after a week, go back to her. Or i guess she would also call you to ask if ur ok. If she does that. that means she really likes you. Good luck! Its just a simple test thats all. Dont worry!
2006-12-10 16:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u didnt say if u've already told her of your feelings. if she knew already, u can also check with her if she feels the same way about u. is it the term/tag of relationship (marriage or steady etc) that she is afraid of but she cares about u? once u find these out, and if she cares abt u like u for her, then u can tell her that u are not going anywhere, and u will be there (tht is: continue to hold her hand, rub her arm, etc as u described).
however, if u feel that u want more and dont want to wait, then by all means, dont. ;)
2006-12-11 00:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by jiwaku79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her then take your time. Respect her and show her that you care about her being comfortable. If I were you I would talk to her. Just let her know that you care about her, and want to be with her. Tell you that you know what she's been through and respect her decisions, but let her know that your there when she is ready to take that next step. BUT before you do, make sure that you are ready to keep that promise.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 00:51:30 · answer #3 · answered by short n sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should give her some space because she asked u 2 BUT u still should be her friend Good Luck
2006-12-11 00:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by lost in translation. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try harder but BE TENDER and really look into the "romantic" thing k? and let her know that if she really needs the space you will give her all the time she needs.
later romeo
2006-12-11 00:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by ManderAnne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋