i have a boyfriend of two and a half years, i love him alot and we have a lot of good times, but mostly we dont get along and we argue alot. im beginning to doubt if hes right for me at all, i can see us as really great friends but im starting to feel that "i love you but im not in love with you" thing coming on. recently another guy has come into my life, ive known him since high school and we've always been aquaintances, but hes been telling me how much he likes me and that he would treat me much better. hes really nice and i think he has good intentions. ive just been feeling so confused and overwhelmed by all of this and i have no idea what to do!! ive considered taking a break from my current bf and taking some "me" time to try to figure out on my own what it is that i really want. its becoming a tough decision and i dont think that it should be. am i a horrible person? ha help me out!
2006-12-10 16:37:01 · 20 answers · asked by woohoo730 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a guy (22) so lets pretend I'm your current BF. I would understand you taking your "me" time. for a little while if I was serious about you. But if you take your "me" time and immediatly get a new bf, that would be the absolute end to our relationship. If you are doubting that he is the right guy for you, he probably isn't so talk to him about it and maybe give it another month(after 2.5 years what would one month hurt) and if he doesn't shape up, lose him. But DO NOT just run to that other guy. Maybe you should take some "me " time and be single and enjoy it.
2006-12-10 16:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by j train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have an attraction to another guy, its obviously not a "forever" love. I was in a relationship that sounds a lot like yours for a year that ended a few weeks ago and it was really hard to end, but there was another guy that i was interested in, it was better to appreciate the run we had than stay in all the bad times for the occational good. Sometime you just drift and things change. You have to change with the changes. I say break up with the bf because its not a healthy relationship, take some time and dont rush things with the new guy. Let things play out. Things will fall into place.
2006-12-10 16:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste time with a guy you only fight with; it isn't worth it.
As for the other guy, don't immediately pursue a relationship with him if you do break it off with Current Boyfriend, or else Prospective Boyfriend will probably just end up being a rebound boy no matter what potential you two might have.
Make sure to have some time between to get over one guy, and prepare yourself for a new commitment.
2006-12-10 16:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things seem rosy with a guy whom u haven't really gotten to know all that well. You've seen more of the guy that u've been dating and you've been able to see the good and the bad. Remember that the other guy too has a bad side which you will get to know with time. Just keep this in mind. Good luck.
2006-12-10 16:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are talking about is not "me"-time.You are talking about getting away from him (but keeping him in your back pocket,so you don't get abandoned in the mean time ),in case it does'nt work out with guy #2.There is a huge difference.In order to approach this with character,you will have to be honest with yourself and your current beau,risk it all and be willing to end up alone.Or do the opposite and lose both self respect,and the respect of BOTH guys.I think the choice is simple,if you want to be fair.
2006-12-10 16:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should have one last talk with your boyfriend and with the hidden question you are going to ask him you will know if you need to brake up with him or not... remember everyone argues we are not perfect but if your heart is telling to go with other guy then do that because maybe just maybe you never know if he is the one God is putting in life.. he could be the one
GOOD LUCK hope everything turns out for the best
2006-12-10 16:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Evey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 1) a horrible girlfriend and 2) immature, selfish and naive. Don't do unto others what you would have them do unto you. Do you believe in retribution? Well you should, cause it's already knocking on your door. Hope you get a taste of your own medicine soon.
2006-12-10 16:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mark L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that since you have been with someone for a long time, you "owe" it to them to try again. They will get over it..you have to do what's best for YOU. You don't want too look back on your life and think " I should've". Also, don't pressure yourself into thinking you HAVE to be with someone so seriously right now either...live life..when the time is right, you will know.
2006-12-10 16:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Aqueous Transmission 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it sounds like you are finally maturing and seeing the light. Break up with the guy on the basis that you argue too much....then slowly get to know the other guy.
2006-12-10 16:40:04 · answer #9 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
with the other guy not your boyfriend, ask him out some place as a friend you are obviously going to talk and if you start to fall for him leave your boyfriend and go out with this dude. and there is nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out, it is totally normal
2006-12-10 16:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by alejandra611 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋