My daughter passed away 9 years ago. She was 7 years old. I have 3 other children who are 12, 10, & 8. I have their pictures on the wall in a grouping of 4. I was wondering if and when I should make it a grouping of 3. I don't want to forget my first daughter, but obviously her picture is the only one that doesn't change every year. I do have her picture in other rooms of the house. I'm just wondering about the one grouping of the kids
2006-12-10 16:31:21 · 34 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Thats all up to you. There's no right or wrong answer here. Do what you feel is best.
2006-12-10 16:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Thats up to you if you want to take it down. Shes still your daughter, so if you dont want to then dont. Im sure you will not forget about her because you took one picture down. If you dont know what you want to do, may I suggest that maybe you have the 3 children on the wall, and then on a small table under the group of pictures you have your daughter. That way they are still together, but then you can put up a new photo of each child every year.
2006-12-11 04:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't. She is still your daughter, no matter what. Even though the photo doesn't change every year, you will always be a mother of 4, and you should be proud of them all equally. The fact is she will always be 7 to you and her siblings so it would be silly to take it down. If it upsets you, move the photo, but at the end of the day, your kids are your kids, you will never forget any of them, no matter what.
Making it a group of 3 is like not acknowledging you have 4 kids, and i don't think she would think that was fair, do you?
2006-12-11 00:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Loveangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not weird.....its normal. I have a picture of my deceased daughter on my walls too. SHe died at 16 days old(she would have been 8 now) The picture doesnt change, but most people in my house know who she is, and so dont question it. My other kids ask me things about her all the time(most were born after she was) You should do what you feel is most comfortable for you and other members of your family. Her brothers and sisters might like seeing her, it may be a way to help remember her.
2006-12-10 16:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its Okay to keep your daughter's picture with her siblings in a group form. (by the way my condolences on your loss. I am a mother of 3 healthy & grown children. I do not know what it is to lose a child I shudder to think)
Perhaps later since you do have other pictures of the child in other rooms then you can take the one of the groupings of the siblings separate when you are ready.
2006-12-10 16:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by audrey_halley2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it up. Nothing is wrong with having it there.. That is a wall with your children.. ALL of your children. Just because she is no longer with us in this world does not mean that she is no longer your daughter. Besides, having it up there is the constant reminder of the blessing that God gave you and you can remember all of those good times that you had. I am sincerly sorry for your lost but I know she is in a better place and she is looking down on you and your family each and every day.
2006-12-10 16:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jeni W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. First of, I'm sorry for your loss..
it's perfectly normal to put a picture of your daughter with the other pics of your kids since she is still your daughter and if helps for her picture to remind you that, now, she is an angel in heaven,looking down on you and your family...then, it's perfectly fine to do so.
Mementos are reminders of the joy that she was and still is 9 yrs. after she went back home to the Lord.
God bless you and your family.
2006-12-10 16:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by sugar b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is ok she was and still will be in u guys heart forever so she is still part of the family she is just watching over u guys now so leave her picture where ever u desire sorry to hear about your lost tell the kids i said hi and u have a nice day.
2006-12-10 16:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by monte the man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no. It is absolutely fantastic and great that you can do it! Some parents can't and it is sad - they are closing a door on a lot of good memories.
What I suggest is that her frame be different then the other childrens. If you are changing their pictures every year then hers has to be a little different so it stands out [or in]... If the other children's pictures are in black frames, have hers in a flower patterened frame.
2006-12-10 16:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. I have many photos of my Grandmother up because I miss her and love to look at her. If I had a deceased child, the pic would never come down. It is healthy to remember those we loved and the loving things about them. That child will always be a part of your life. I know my Grandmother is always part of the family, deceased or not. Her pic is in the nursery and in my bedroom. I am sorry for your loss, angel hugs to you.
2006-12-10 17:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by babygrlpls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would never take that picture down. She is still just as much a part of the family now as she was when that picture was taken. Hold on to the memories as much as you can. I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-12-10 16:42:29 · answer #11 · answered by Jay S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋