Parents treat me like a baby, how to handle it?

Question

im 20 years old and my parents treat me like a baby. im rarely allowed out late unless i have a reason to be, im expected in by 10 on weeknights and 12 on weekends. and its not like i get in trouble or do anything wrong, i have awesome grades and ive never been in any serious trouble. its so bad that i would love to move out but i was told that if i did theyd stop paying for my school and i cant afford to pay for it on my own. id also love to rebel and just stay out but i dont want to run the risk of getting kicked out. its embarassing to have to go home earlier than kids younger than me. how should i handle this?

Answer 1

My parents were the same way with me. I went to school out of state so during the school year, they had no clue what I was doing but when I was home on breaks I was under their control and after I graduated and moved back to my parents' house, I was again treated like a child even though I was 23 and starting my career.

I live on my own now (I'm 28) and I am going to be very honest with you- living on your own is very costly. If you can't afford school on your own, you can't afford to live on your own either. For a 1 bedroom apartment, rent and bills run me over $1500 a month- that doesn't include food and any unexpected expenses. I would wait until you have a steady paycheck before moving out.

If your school has a dorm, you may want to move into it. You will have a taste of freedom but you will still be in a somewhat structured environment and have many resources that can help resolve problems (ie resident advisors or peer leaders). Plus the cost of room and board can usually be rolled into your tuition and picked up by financial aid.

Whatever you do, this is not the time to rebel. You need to show your parents that you are turning into a mature adult. Rebeling will probably backfire and they will keep you on a shorter leash. Once they see you as an adult, they will start treating you as one.

Good luck and know that this will not last forever.

Answer 2

Some say its an issue of the 14th amendment. It is your legal right to be a citizen because you were born here. Others say just because your mom popped you out while on US soil doesn't mean you have an automatic right to be a citizen. Most have a problem when the parent stays illegally because the kid has the right to be here. You are right, you didn't do anything wrong. Illegals are a sensitive subject. Americans who are born and raised here and those who worked their butt off to get here take issue with those who feel they have the right to waltz into the country, take advantage of all the benefits, but don't contribute to the system. There are a lot of illegals who come from south of the border knowing that if they have their baby here, the kid can stay and maybe they will get some money. These parents induce labor early so that they have the kid here. It can cost from $5,000 plus per day to take care of a premie baby in NICU. Tax payers, hospitals, providers, etc., all have to eat the cost because these illegal parents can't afford to take care of their own kid. This neligence hurts theentire system and all involved. Do you think thats fair? Just one example and one side. Is your mother here illegally? If so, do you think she has the right to? Do you think it hurts anyone?

Answer 3

For me you should be thankful for having parents like them, can you imagine your life without them by your side? if yes, then think twice if you want to go or not because life without them would really make a big difference.

My parents are also strict to me, until now that I'm 22 I still live in their house. But now that I have my work I can handle my own time. I just let them know where I am because I know they loved me and they're concerned with my safety.

If you really want talk to them about this... For sure they will understand...

Answer 4

This is messed up. 1 they are blackmailing you to keep you under “control”. Your parents want to maintain “control” and probably think this will keep you from growing up. Which you already are. 2. Sad fact is, “their home their rules”,, But they should recognize you are an adult. It’s about respecting you are an adult.

Your call, either play “their game” or pay for school and place to live. LOL… may try explaining to them when the time comes,, You get to pick their nursing home? lol.. just kidding (sorta)

Answer 5

Just tell them that you are an adult now and should be moving out and experiencing life on your own. Because sooner or later you could get married and have to go live with your husband/wife, and your parents are just going to have to deal with it. So its best they experienced it now. Tell them that moving out is something that you are doing for your benefit, and it doesnt take away the fact that you love them, and that you too would hope they could support you. They maybe afraid to let you out on your own (because you are probably an only child), but just tell them that you'll be fine, and will contact them and visit them regularly.

Answer 6

stand up 4 ur self mata or they will nevor start treating u differently
dont yell at em try and be mature about it
let em now how u feel
LIE TO THEM if ya have too

Answer 7

If you don't wanna get treated like a baby, get the heck outta their house!!! If you act like an adult, you would get treated like one, but until then, you have to follow thier rules.

Answer 8

MOVE OUT ON YOUR OWN, TIME TO LEAVE HOME!!
GET A ROOM-MATE TO SHARE THE CO$T.

Answer 9

tell them to stop i mean your 20 for goodness sake