I like this girl and we have great chemistry. We've been on a couple of dates. She has hurt someone in the past and has seen relationships end in the demise of friendships and doesn't want to go through that hardship herself.
I know that she wants a family but she says she isn't ready for a relationship now.
I completely understand her stance on this topic, but I also know that it doesn't make sense to hide for fear that something isn't going to work out, when there is a good chance that it might and something great might also come of it.
What do I do?
2006-12-10 16:18:51 · 7 answers · asked by dowboy98 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry.Don't let RUDEGUY discourage you.
I know that you are torn and hurt,but when I have told a guy in the past that I was afraid of relationships and did'nt want one,what I really meant was that I did'nt want one with them.Now,I try to be more honest which is hard to do without hurting them,but it sounds like she was trying to let you down easy.Forgive her and move on.Also,though you think it is a good idea,don't try to be her ffriend.You are only fooling yourself,but probably not her.You will get hurt if you hang around w/her feeling like you do.Go find some other interesting girls to hang out with .They will teach you how to be a friend first,and probably let you in on some girl secret language.Don't give up on all girls,just this one.Good luck.*Obviously she does not think that you have great chemistry in a romantic way or she would have let you know this.
2006-12-10 16:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i just read this and it relates to me...because my neighbor (who is also my brother's best friend) asked me out after knowing him for 10 years and he got my bro's permission too. and i wanted to give him a try because he's a great guy and when i was way younger i had a little crush on him. But now i dont think i should because so much has changed since ive known him...ive changed a lot and he doesnt know because i moved out of my parents place and i live an hour away and a lot has changed from the past 2 1/2 years ago since i moved out. But just give her her space
2006-12-11 00:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by tragickingdom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things slowly and spend time with her when you both have time...but above all else, don't push her, it will make her run. If it's meant to be, then it will be. Nothing is better than falling in love with your best friend, so become that to her first. Good Luck.
2006-12-11 00:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take it slow and play by her rules, dont push it! if she distances herself from you then it is going nowhere. dont get all mushy on her and pour out your feelings because one of you will end up getting hurt. stay secretive about your feelings because if you reveal them it puts you in a vulnerable position. it is only safe to tell her how you feel about her if she aks. she is on a need to know basis. good luck!
2006-12-11 00:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by *juicyjellybean* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her time and space. If its meant to work out it will.
If you pressure her you won't raise your chances any.
2006-12-11 00:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by lolavonb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HER ALONG AND LET HER BE...
IF SHE WANTS YOU SHE WILL COME AROUND..
RIGHT NOE YOU CATCHING HER ON WHAT YOU ALL A REBOUND.. AND IT WILL NEVER WORK. JUST BE HER FRIEND WITH BENEFITS..
2006-12-11 00:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it, why not?
2006-12-11 00:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋