Please help me????

Question

well me and my boyfriend broke up well because i just did not feel very confertable around him for some reason that i do not know of.And after about 10 or 20 weeks i started to get jelouse well because way deep down in my hart i still love him and he does not know how i feel about him and all.Well my best friend asked him out and now they are going out and i just feel jelouse i just don't know why i feel very jelouse?Im really confused.And my best friend does not know how i feel and i do not know how to tell her about her going out with my ex boyfriend and how i felt jelouse i just don't want her to get mad at me.What do you think i should do please help me?And only nice answers only no mean answers!Please help me.And try to understan my queshtion the best as you can ok!And thanxs for ya all avice.And me and my best friend promise echother that we both will not go out with echothers ex boyfriends.Well she told me not to go out with her ex boyfriend and i told her not to go out with my

ex boyfriend but she broke our promise that we both made to echother.And now i am kinda mad and upset that she broke our promise that we both made.

i can not find some one else becase every body thinks that i am ugly and they hate me at my school.

How can i not be jelouse no more.please help me.

Answer 1

I'm really sorry that you're feeling so bad right now. I think you're feeling more overwhelmed by all that's happening than anything right now. it would be a shock to find out that your best friend is now dating your ex whom you still have feelings for, especially since you both promised one another that you wouldn't date each other's ex-boyfriends.
tell your best friend how all this is making you feel, and why. she needs to know that you still have feelings for your ex, and she doesn't need to be seeing him anyway because she promised she wouldn't. try and be as mature as possible when you talk about it so that you two don't get into an argument. if she's really your friend, she'll back off and stop seeing him.
then you need to talk to your ex, and tell him how you've been feeling. you need to let him know that you still love him, and that you're not over him.
I understand that you're confused and jealous, but when you talk to your friend and explain everything to her, and get it all out in the open, you'll feel fifty percent better, and when you talk to your ex, and get everything out into the open with him, you'll feel one hundred percent better. right now, your best friend and your ex have no idea how you feel. so now is the time to talk to them.
don't worry okay? everything's going to work out just fine.
I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Hi,

I am sorry to see your nickname of sad girl.

I think your feeling of jealousy is perfectly normal and your loving him inside is making you feel that way.

Considering that you and your best friend have an agreement to not date each others ex's, I would want you to talk with her and explain to her exactly what you said in your question.

If she gets mad at you, which I know she won't, but if she did, then she is not your friend, but not to fear, anyone who will sit down with you and promise to not hurt you by dating your ex, is a good true friend.

When you speak with her, you will feel better, and she will understand, and all will be ok for you and her and you will get your boyfriend back, if you want him back.

I am concerned about your having an uncomfortable feeling being around him. Have you ever had reason to suspect that he was not being true to you? Give it some thought.

In closing, just remember our worst fears are always just in our mind, and are not anything to be afraid of. Talk with your best friend, and all will be ok.

Have a very Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year,

Darryl S.

Answer 3

I am sorry, but a best friend does not date her best friend’s ex, nor does a best friend break a promise. Get yourself a new best friend, you deserve a “REAL” best friend, not someone who pretends to be your best friend and as soon as you break up with your boyfriend swipe him right under you.

You shouldn’t care about what other think about you. The only opinion that really matters is yours. And as long as you believe you’re beautiful inside and out, then you are, and nobody can take that away from you.

I think it’s for the best if you forget the ex boyfriend and this supposedly best friend of yours. Don’t consume your time and energy into jealous rages. Just let it be. They both did you wrong, although he may no longer had any obligations to you, you’re best friend did. I suggest you take all that time and energy and invest it in something more productive (hobbies/passions). Time will pass and you’ll get over him, promise : ]

Answer 4

focus on someone else for now... and tell your friend how you feel because she is your friend and she did break a promise you made. Dont make a huge deal out of it because I think you feel jealous because someone else likes him. Which is normal. But thats why you should probably move on, you broke up with him for a reason anyway.

Answer 5

u should tell her that if a guy is more important than a promise and a friendship than she needs to fix her priorities. and tell her wat u feel about he situation. she needs to understand that u won't be able to trust her again after the stunt that she pulled. u also have to tell him how u feel, hot to steal him back but so that u can have closure. u can't think only about the bad but also about he good. telling him will help you through the tough time and give you closure. getting it off ur chest will help u to forget everything and move on wit ur life. that's wats really important.

Answer 6

You broke up with him for a reason.. concentrate on that. You now want him back because someone else likes him.
Get someone you won't want to break up with.