What is the most important factor in raising a child ?

Question

Do you have a goal or objective in raising your child ? What values or aspect is most important for your consideration in raising a kid ?

Answer 1

Aside from the most obvious, love, I believe that instilling morality in a child so that they might have the ability to make the correct decisions is paramount. If a child learns what it is to have good morals and values, they will succeed so much further in life.

Answer 2

When I had my child I told myslef not to do the mistakes my parents did.
I have always talked openly to my child about every topic. We talk about the news, mtv, gossip and the way the world is working.
I have made sure that she understood that education and good manners is very important for society. We also talk about the different religions and what they mean, she decicided what religion she wanted.
I have also not turned away from the question about child abuse, sexual abuse and how it is seen differently around the world.
I have also talk to my child about "having", just because everybody has something does not make it a good thing. Like gameboys, not im my house before she was 14 years old. Before that only pc learning games.
Not that she was not allowed to play with it. I just made sure she use more her imaginatioin more thru art and music.
I have also made sure she see what is behind the all mighty money and how it effects the poor.
Now after 16 years she is a smart and a courages girl. She cant wait to go to universitity. She comes to me with her joys and fears. She understands that I've been there and done that, and she can get some experience from my past, which helps her make good decisions.
Nowadays when parents say their teens are not communicating with the I can says " I wish sometimes mine would shut up".
So my goal is/was to bring up a smart girl, like I did, not making the mistakes my parents made, like I have not.
I hope this answer is what you were looking for, maybe I should mention that we live in germany so we are influence by many cultures.

Answer 3

What you have to realize is that your kids will attempt to mirror you [purposely until they hit puberty and then not so purposely... ha ha ha]

If you read a lot, try to live well, enjoy life and save your negative comments for when they aren't around, they will mirror your behaviour. Think about how other people see you, and all your bad habits. Kids of smokers will probably be smokers [aaahhhh I can't quit yet either!!!!!] and couch potatoe parents will more likely have obese lazy kids. Its a sad but true fact.

So when I had my first daughter I realized this very very quickly after watching other people and THEIR children through my pregnancy. I had never been exposed to kids, never even babysat so I really got interested in the relationships between parents and their kids. Mouthy rude parents tend to have mouthy rude kids - or meek kids if their mouth has run away with them one too many times.

My goal was whole child education and academic brilliance. Not setting my sights too high right?? My daughters are 7 and 9 and very well rounded. They stand up for what they think is wrong, even if it gets them into trouble. They do not stand there and watch someone get bullied. I showed and taught them young that you stand up for what you believe in, and step up when it is your turn to step up for what is right. How? If someone behind us says a racist comment, I will turn around in front of my daughters and tell that person how absolutely wrong they are. I am always pleasant to people, and if someone does a good job, I tell them so. I try not to swear, curse, or say something to someone judgemental without knowing all the facts. If there is an ambulance, I don't gawk - I say "I hope everyone is ok". If a car is stopped on the highway I check to see if everyone inside is ok. I stop for accidents and stay until the police come. I hold the door open for the person behind me. And after all this, I tell them why we do it.

They get above WAY above average marks, are interested in everything, and the negative remarks on report cards tend to be "her enthusiam for school tends to make her impatient with slower learners" [sigh I wish I could home school them for a year!] We read for hours a day, have no cable [but they each get a turn online every day] and play a lot of board games, card games and chess. They know I am taking university courses for "fun" [I have a full time job I love, I am working on a degree as a hobby in my spare time] and this has turned into bragging rights for them at school - all their friends think I'm cool!

They are also involved in sports [for team work, health and fun!] year round, and my older daughter is in cadets as well. I volunteer somehow to help out with each team they are on, even if it is just freezies for the soccer tournament. And we volunteer as a family for local events as well.

Seriously, if I had to choose one thing that I value in my kids that I instilled in them when young? A passion for reading and learning. If they have that, they can have anything.

Volunteer together. Learn together! Teach them why and how to do what is right, and do it yourself! Be the person you should be, and give your kids all the time you can while they are young. Remember that a game of chess with a 7 year old is a lot more fun then watching Grey's Anatomy. And that adults can go sledding too :P Travel while they are young so they don't fear it when they are older. And laugh. A LOT.

Answer 4

Certainly, a few publicity to persons and recommendations specific from one's possess could be a confident have an effect on on a developing little one. Children raised in "closed" environments have a tendency to develop up with "closed" minds. This applies now not handiest to racial and cultural range however to a huge variety of impacts, and is well for the little one now not handiest within the judgment of right and wrong however close to as good, when you consider that a little one raised to have an open brain might be extra ready to evolve to more than a few instances of existence.

Answer 5

My goal for raising my son is respect. I want him to respect women and himself. there are so many black men who have not been raised with respect. The fathers usually run out on the mothers and there is no father figure. I have been a single parent for 9 years and from the first time my son could talk, I taught him respect. To respect himself and women and all types of authorities. The respect aspect is leading up to what my ultimate goal is for him. That goal is "NOT TO BE A LAZY, UNDERACHIEVING, IRRESPONSIBLE, DISRESPECTFUL, MAD AT THE WORLD BLACK MAN." To me this is the black man cop out. They use all and every excuse to not be a good man. It is never their fault. They need to own up to their share in the wrongdoing and maybe this world would be a better place. The Goal for my daughter is not to be a welfare mom at 13. He!!, not to be a welfare mom at all. I want her to be independant, and have self respect and demand respect from others. I want my daughter to be strong enough not to need a man, but smart enough to know when she has found a good one.

Answer 6

My main objective in raising my two girls is to have them show respect for other people and to lead their lives without having regrets for something that they have done to someone else. I'm sure they will make mistakes, but the key is to find solutions to the mistakes that they make. I want them to be independent and self sufficient, strong and educated women. They do not have to change the world but they need to make a slight difference while they are in it.

Answer 7

To set a good example for them I will try to not do anything in their precence or at all that I wouldnot want them to do. Parents are the ones that mold the way their child thinks and behaves in my opinion.

Answer 8

Love your child. Teach them from a young age not to lie and be an honest person, and to respect the law.Also to consider people's feelings and not become selfish.

Answer 9

i have a goal that all my 5 kids will finish college and become good parents/people i teach my kids lessons in life,self exp. and responsibilities

Answer 10

to love and nurture them and to raise a healthy and smart child.