I love my boyfriend of over 6 months very much...but I'm still in love with my ex, whom was my first love. I can't get over him. I've tried, but I've failed. It's like we're connected so closely and drawn together by a magnetic force. So I'm wondering, is your first love your strongest love? Will nothing ever compare to it?
2006-12-10 16:11:38 · 15 answers · asked by ZippityDooDa! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
These things take time. I have been with my bf for 3 years now(on and off, but solid in the past year) and I have gone out with others but always found that he was better. He is my first love.
As for my bf, I was his second. And he did think a lot about his first love while we were going out(hence the "on and off") and he was afraid to commit himself. After some time passes, he slowly thought about her less, and thinks about me more. And now, he loves me deeply and(as to my knowledge) doesn't think about his first love anymore. And if he does, he doesn't think of her as his lover anymore. It took him almost a year to realize that he loved me. I think that, if anything, our love is stronger than his first love(even lasted way longer). So I guess that things really just takes time. When he thinks of his future, he is thinking about his future with me(we've talked about it...lots).
So ya, when it comes down to love, emotions, relationships, it really just takes time. Even when I wasn't going out with him, he was still my best friend. I would talk to him almost everyday, confide in him everything that has happened.
2006-12-10 16:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by Vaynthe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in love with my first love for years after he left me. I was with someone new, one that I consider my soul mate. But I still felt that tug, it was like a magnet that gravitated me towards him. He even came back looking for me. It just couldn't happen. Our moment in the sun was over, even if we still felt a connection. We are different people now.
Now for you your first may be your strongest I don't know you like that to say for sure. What I do know is that the one your with, or another could be that stronger love. It is so hard to let go of the past, but the future has so much in store. Don't let it hold you back or you will look back and realize that you missed out. For me the day I say my new love I knew it was stronger, so much more so than my first. But I will always have that day in the sun to look back on. I am even happier to see the new day dawning ahead.
i hope this helps some
2006-12-10 16:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by splndrngrss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A first love is always something special. In your case, if you've "tried but failed", you haven't tried hard enough. You'd like to think you were trying, but you really weren't doing all you could have done. You like the feeling and still want to be close with this person. To say whether or not another love will compare to it, well, that depends on the situation. Many loves will come and go, each unique, so can they really *be* compared?
2006-12-10 16:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess in some cases probably. For example, mine no way. I thought he was my strongest love until I met my fiance. I felt a connection with my ex too, but when I met my fiance I realized me and my ex were kind of like "friend" soul mates. Better at friends than we were a couple. But when you find the right one, that will be your strongest love. Hope this helped. Happy Holidays.
2006-12-10 16:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Danae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are still drawn to your ex. That was the 1st guy you really fell in love with, and possibly other stuff. So there is a connective pull btw you and him. If you still feel this strongly, then maybe you should consider that relationship again.
2006-12-10 16:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by mke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People usually don’t really know it for sure cause it is just first time..but as the grow older and learn about their own heart and mind..than they know what is love and they can tell a big difference in ways the feel about the first love and the more mature love.
2006-12-10 16:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by CHICK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes for most people thier first love is one of the most memorable. As time goes on you will meet other people and your feeling for your ex will not be as strong. The first you will alawys have a special connection w/ but as time goes on you will meet other people and glad you moved on.
2006-12-10 16:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my first love sure as hell isnt my strongest love, i think it depends on what happened during the relationship and why you broke up that makes the difference between still loving him more than anything or not having any problems without him
2006-12-10 16:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by i need help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your first love is, in fact, your strongest...unfortunately. I was with my first love for 2 1/2 years, and no matter who I date I cannot get that "passion" back. Hopefull not though!....good luck!
2006-12-10 16:14:40 · answer #9 · answered by *ladybug* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still love my first love. That was ten years ago. I think I feel stronger for her now than I did back then. First loves are always the best.
2006-12-10 16:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋