I like this girl and we have great chemistry. We've been on a couple of dates. She has hurt someone in the past and has seen relationships end in the demise of friendships and doesn't want to go through that hardship herself.
I know that she wants a family but she says she isn't ready for a relationship now.
I completely understand her stance on this topic, but I also know that it doesn't make sense to hide for fear that something isn't going to work out, when there is a good chance that it might and something great might also come of it.
What do I do?
2006-12-10 16:08:57 · 9 answers · asked by dowboy98 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take things slow with her. She will probably start to realize in time that she does want a relationship.
2006-12-10 16:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by golden2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to go veri slow with her...
Gals are not like guys....they are veri emotional beings...if they are hurt badly or hurt someone badly (a guy) in the past due to a fail relationship, it takes them awhile to recover emotionally
They will be fearful and worried abt hurting another that's y they are so afraid to go into a relationship...
If you really love this gal, give her some time and space... she knows that you are nice to her even if she pretends that u dun even exists...
Still regard her as a fren and dun pressure her into a relationship and the chances of getting her will be much higher...
it's her call now not yours no point rushing her even she dun want to...
as for you be open to others around you and participate in other social activities where you can get to meet more people n know new frens
Cheers
2006-12-11 00:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by ~be aspired!~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run in the opposite direction. I am not saying this to be mean, but the only time anyone uses the line, "I am not ready for a relationship," it just means they are not ready for one with you.
I don't mean this badly. I have used AND heard this line before. If she met someone she really liked, she would be ready. Think about it, have you ever said this to someone you didn't really want to date but wanted to keep in your life?
It just seems like she wants you to be there for the attention you give her and in case she doesn't find something better.
You deserve and should DEMAND more than this from any relationship. There are other girls out there just waiting for you to come and find them.
2006-12-11 00:13:38 · answer #3 · answered by christi4681 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all talk to her telling her how you fully fell about her, second you need to tell her what would break your heart that way she'll try to avoid them, third tell her that your there for when she needs help and that if and when she's ready for a relationship that you want to have a go, fourth and the hardest the others can be any order but this is always last and is most important...if she feels she's not ready and if you truely love her let her go, and tell her you'll give her all the room she needs but give her freedom in which to figure things out..alright, good.
2006-12-11 00:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by The Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has come out of bad relationships she will need some time before making any commitment be her friend and wait a while it will grow into a relationship .
2006-12-11 00:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it seems that you really like this person. I believe that she likes you, but she is scared. I know how she may feel, but she has to trust you. She has to just step out and take that chance.She will never find out until she tries.Just keep on dating, do something really nice for the holidays, surprise her, take her shopping, write her a letter.Tell her that you care and how you feel about her.
2006-12-11 00:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by lhpretty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give her some time. you guys should continue to go on your dates and have fun. maybe she will forget about all the bad times in her past relationships and have fun with you.
2006-12-11 00:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a good guy you'll give her, her space and wait as long as you have to for her! And you should tell her that!
2006-12-11 00:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Confuzzled! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant convince her so just be there for her --- show her that it does not have to be the way she has seen --- love her respect her and care for her and dont waver
2006-12-11 00:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋