I'm really concerned, he cant seem to remember simple things, such as what he had for breakfast, what tv show he watched, or what he played. Or is it easier for him to answer "can't remember" to all this questions?
2006-12-10 15:59:45 · 16 answers · asked by whole_world_refugee 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Honestly, it is not normal. BUT, it can be improved. At 4 yrs old he will have a very good start.
Most of the time children with short term memory problems lack confidence (because they can't remember things). SO, get this nipped in the bud ASAP.
Talk to his pediatrician about seeing a speech and language therapist. They will be able to do exercises with him to help improve his memory.
Mommy may need to spend some time working with him herself...buy memory games, flash cards, and other educational tools to help him at home.
No caffeine or sugar! Less TV and video games! Studies show that this contributes greatly to concentration problems in children (note the ADHD generation was raised on this). Plus, the TV and video games can hinder a child's imagination...it's doing all the work for him.
Take him to the library once a week and get a new book to read. After you read it ask him questions about it. Get him to draw a picture about the story. Same with cartoons, get into the habit of asking lots of questions. He will learn to force (and therefore teach) himself to remember certain things.
Children are much smarter now than they were 30 yrs ago, yet most are not exposed to being taught basic learning skills until they get into elementary school. It may just be a case that your child's learning is suppressed because he is not being exposed to those skills enough. He has so much going on in his head that he can't focus...and being only 4 yrs old, has not been taught how.
So, not to worry mom. He is probably a lot smarter than you are giving him credit for. Don't stress him out by making him feel something is wrong because he can't remember something. Just help him learn to focus and concentrate by doing those things that I mentioned above, and don't forget to talk to the pediatrician about a speech and language therapist. They don't just help with speech and language, they work on building memory, learning skills. And don't take no for an answer, this is your son's future.
Good luck!~
2006-12-10 16:29:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have taught preschool/kindergarten for over 12 years and have parent ask me the same questions many many times! Don’t worry! It's really common for children at that age to "live in the moment." Once they transition to the next thing, they forget what happened before because now they are taking in new information.
Try and ask more involved question rather than "What did you do today?" I bet if you ask him a question this way his response is probably "Can’t remember" or "I don't know." Ask him more direct questions to prompt his memory like “How many home runs did you get?” or “What did you think about your oatmeal” or “What did you think when Spongebob made the snowman?” Make sure he is not distracted when speaking with him. If he is watching television, playing on the computer, or involved in something that is holding his attention, he will most likely give you a simple answer when you ask him a question.
You can do some things at home to help improve his memory if you are really concerned. Memory games are great for this. You can also read him a story. Once you are finished have him tell you about his favorite part or draw a picture about it. You can also do things to improve memory by playing “fetching” games about the house. Give him a simple task to start off with “Go into your room and get the blue socks.” As he gets better with this you can make the task more challenging “Go get your blue socks, red shoes, and your fuzzy hat.” Keep it fun! Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-12-11 05:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 20:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter does the same thing, but when you she starts talking she remembers things from 2 years ago , she is 4. I think "I cant remember" is easy when they dont want to tell you. My daughter can never remember what she does at school until bedtime when if she tells me it buys her 3 extra minutes of being up.
But if you are really concerned by all means bring it up w/ his doctor
2006-12-10 16:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 4 year old and I can tell you that as far as I know, this is normal. My son can't remember if he ate lunch but can tell you who has guest starred in every Scooby Doo episode he has ever seen. Kids have different ideas about what is important to remember and what is not.
2006-12-10 16:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by morghaine32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only four years old. He doesn't think like an adult. You're lucky if a four year old can remember what they saw on television five minutes ago unless it was something they thought was really remarkable. That's why he doesn't remember that you told him not to do something yesterday that he does again today.
2006-12-10 16:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible with all the activities that their brains go through in a day that he can't remember...It seems like my kids did that for awhile, although, if he is into some other activity, he may just answer that way.
2006-12-10 16:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some kids just don't like to answer questions. My daughter is 4 and she does that. Sometimes she just doesn't want to explain things. It's probably what they do at that age.
2006-12-10 16:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ndpndnt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal. He may have been concentrating on something else at hte time or in between. My 10 year old asks me when lunch is after having eaten it 15 minutes earlier...
2006-12-10 16:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal. My 4 yo does the same thing. He usually just says, "Um... dunno."
Kids have so much going on in their imaginations, I don't think they have much room for the monotony of every day life in there.
2006-12-10 16:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by jar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋