she then normal wakes 2hrs later and comes into my bed. How do I get her out of this sleep pattern. My 2yr son has no problems.
2006-12-10 15:59:06 · 13 answers · asked by Weiners and Beans 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
As you can see from the answers, this is really a question of your parenting style and how you want to raise your children.
If you really cannot tolerate this behavior, then you need to be firm, as the first responder said, and consistent. But I think you also need to show a 4 y.o. that you really do love her and want her to change this behavior with your help.
I really like the parent who allows this, because when children feel secure, and when they know their parents will be there for them, then they tend to do what the parents want.
Find your balance with your child. It takes time, but is well worth it.
2006-12-10 17:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Longshiren 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might have bad dreams. Be sweet to her, and let her go into your bed when she wants.
If you want to try and get her to stay in her bed longer, take her outside before supper for a really active sport like sledding or skating. The fresh air will tire her out, and then feed her a big meal with a lot of warm starches [ie bread, rolls, rice]. Her tummy will be full, she'll be tired and stay longer in her bed. The hot starches give a sense of contentment. Then a warm bath, warm pjys, and a good cuddle and reading time until she falls asleep.
Also make sure you are giving her a nightlight so if she does wake up she isn't scared.
2006-12-10 16:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We had the same problem with our son.
What finally worked for us was sitting down before bedtime and talking about the situation. We explained that mom and dad don't sleep very well when he came in our bed. And that makes us grumpy. We also added some motivation, but you have to experiment to figure out what really motivates your kid. For us it was playing "big-boy" racing games on the Nintendo the next morning if he stayed in his own bed.
Each kid is different. Maybe this will work for you, maybe not.
Good luck!
2006-12-10 17:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by jar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her back to her bed and tell her calmly that she must sleep in her own bed and good night. She will come again and you must continue this all night if necessary for multiple nights until she is worn out and starts sleeping in her own bed. You will probly be worn out too. Also try giving her something special to sleep with that she can only have in her bed. A new pillow, stuffed animal or even one of your shirts that smells like you. Good luck
2006-12-10 16:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by suzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When its bedtime, get in the bed with her a the both of you go to sleep. When she's in deep sleep leave and go to your own bed. In the morning wake her up, and show her that she made it through the night alone. Maybe this'll work. Good luck
2006-12-14 15:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by kinkyafro22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
^^^ Yes, that is what you have to do (first answer.) It is hard, and she will cry and probably say that you are mean. But you have to stop this behavior. You are an adult and you need your bed to yourself (or yourslef + partner.)
By the way, it's important NOT to talk to your daughter when she wakes up and comes to your bed. The first time, you can say "Honey, it's bedtime, you need to go back to your bed." But after that, simply pick her up and put her back WITHOUT speaking to her. If you talk to her, it's rewarding her for her behavior (she wants to "visit" with you and that's what she gets.) So just be silent.
Be strong! This will take time... you have to be persistent. In the morning, remind her how much you love her, but at bedtime, you might have to be a big meanie.
2006-12-10 16:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter is the same age and does the same thing. If she does go to sleep in her bed she will get up in the middle of the night and get into mine. It's something that's hard to break once you start it. The only thing you can do is make sure she falls asleep in her own bed and when she gets up, put her back.
2006-12-10 16:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by Ndpndnt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have to find the reason she can not sleep.
when i was 8 I had a teacher who was telling us very scary stories and I used to add some more stuff to it and tell to my younger brother who was 4 at the time, he had the same problem. I did not know what I was doing and my parents had no idea about it.
till they find out ( do not remember how ) and we had a long chat and after a while he start sleeping in his room with no problem.
2006-12-10 16:52:12 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bring my children back to their own bed and sometimes lay with them until they go back to sleep and sneak out. They go through fazes so sometimes they wake up at night alot and they just call me and I just tuck them in, get them a drink, or let them bring a toy into their bed. Sometimes they want an extra cuddle sometimes I can just go back to my bed and go back to sleep.
2006-12-10 16:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Selly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents should follow some simple
techniques for making their children sleep,
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2006-12-11 02:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋