Feeling Depressed, Not sure what to do?

Question

I started a $200k job, work 3 days and quit because I wasnt sure if I wanted to charge people excessive fees to do their mortgage. I am now regretting my decision and looking at jobs that wont pay half as much. I am feeling more than depressed. I dont know what to do

Answer 1

It sounds like you’ve hit a rough time in you life. During this hard time I suggest you keep in mind three things:
First: I know that it’s tempting but you can’t be drawn into Global thinking, rather you should concentrate on specific thinking. (A person who lives life by global thinking considers that a “stumble” that they experience in life will forever after doom their life – don’t think like this).
Second: try not to think in the way of permanent assessment. Rather try to think in temporary assessment. (Trust that as bad as things seem now, things won’t always seem so blue).
Third: Think in ways of an internal locus of control, not an external locus of control. (A person who lives life by way of an external locus of control believes that they have no choice over whether or not good things will happen to them).
YOU DO HAVE A CHOICE. Do not let anything stop you from being happy. Money is nice, but money can’t buy happiness. Stop looking at your decision as a bad decision. If you gut instinct told you that you wouldn’t be happy at that job, then be thankful that you got out of the job when you did.
I know that all of this isn’t as easy to do, as it is to say, but you need to try. It’s the only way you’re going to get past the regret. Once you’re past the regret you’ll recognize that you don’t have any limits to what you can do (if you apply yourself). After this happens you feel in control of your life once again, and things will be good for you.
Best of luck!


b.t.w
My older brother was in the same field. he's now in investment for Edward Jones...you are not limited to what you can do

Answer 2

Many people experience depression after either starting a new job, or leaving a job. It's very common.

You left your job because it was something that made you uncomfortable, or went against what you would consider a good moral action. And who can blame you? People seek mortgages because they already usually have money problems, and to charge them more than you feel is necessary has made you uneasy.

Simply put, if you cannot put your own emotions and opinions about the charges aside, this is likely not the job for you. However, you did not give yourself a very long time at all to get used to the job (which was likely a secure, well paid future for you); there's your regret.

My advice would be this... if you still regret quitting, talk to someone who has the same career, or even speak to your recently former employer about how the job made you feel. This may have simply been an obstacle you could have overcome with a few more weeks of employment. You may be able to resecure your job or find another job in the same field.

If you are not looking to continue in the mortgage business, take a deep breather and take a while to think through this. Depression is a natural function, we all go through it. Just try not to let it overtake you. You're talented an intelligent, otherwise you wouldn't have been in the mortgage field to begin with, right? Look around for something new; this world is full of opportunities. :)

Check Monster.com or the local classifieds ads for ideas.

If the depression lingers, consider speaking to a parent or a doctor about it. :)

Let the holidays be happy.

Answer 3

Real joy comes from living a life you love. If you have a job that makes you smile, you won't work a day in your life. It sounds like you made good, ethical decision. What's $200K a year if you feel bad about what you do?

Here's a few questions for you: what is your passion in life? What things in your day make you smile and laugh? Can you turn those passions and skills into a job?

God never closes a door without opening a window. Keep looking; that great job is out there waiting for you!

Answer 4

Look forward not back... You can not change what has been done. Perhaps at some point you can find another high paying job selling mortgages. Good luck.

Answer 5

Money isn't the most important thing in life. Your peace of mind is worth a lot more than $100k per year. Take the job making half as much and sleep well at night.

Answer 6

Go find a job where you aren't ripping people off, then you'll feel better about yourself. Do not be depressed because you have standards, be proud. Besides, you don't need 200K per year, you can get by quite nicely on a lot less and have much better self esteem.

Answer 7

I would go back to the job that I quit and talk to management and explain that I feel that my decision to quit was rather hasty...and that after reconsidering, that I feel that I would like my job back. It won't hurt, and it could make all your worries turn out right.

Answer 8

It looks like prevalent teenage issues. Hormonal changes, peer stress & self-understanding approximately your changing physique could make you sense down. Strife with your mom & a breakup does not help issues. this would possibly not final constantly. attempting to ascertain you eat healthful with out overeating, dozing nicely & getting workout could make you sense greater effective bodily. attaining emotional well-being is greater complicated. Having self assurance in your self, loving who you're, doing issues that make you happy & understanding you're worth is important. in case you would be unable to get out of this slump, communicate with your college counselor.

Answer 9

I've quit jobs before, thought I was'nt doing the right thing. as time passes I am convinced I did the proper thing. money is'nt everything follow your heart.

Answer 10

Try to get your job back or another one like it. You have the experience.