My MIL has been a problem for years now and has been caught in saying mean things about her son & I. Of course she denies everything by not answering questions we have with "I don't know" or " I can't remember".
It has got to the point that we had a discussion and it ended up with my husband & I leaving. And of caourse it all got worse. But her is the major prob. she likes to make contact with either of us with the attitude of "kindness kills". She will act as if nothing ever happened and smile too. She makes us feel like we are nuts!!
Then there will be another argument and again followed by kindness. It is killing us!! She reminds me of Ray's mom on Everybody love Raymond. How do we get through this??
2006-12-10 15:27:09 · 8 answers · asked by Raven 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the best thing i would say is make a point of you and your husband sit down with her and discuss her attitude and find out what the cause is then you can make a more informed discussion on your next course of action.
2006-12-10 15:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by warr31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a husband or significant other? If not, she's probably lonely and uses the two of you as an outlet. Don't let her know that she's getting to you. If her kindness is killing you then she has in fact succeeded in her endeavors. Try having a talk with her one-on-one and lay everything out on the table. The only reason she "acts" as if nothing has happened is because you haven't called her out yet about her undesirable toxic ways!
2006-12-10 23:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you're moving. when she asks to come and visit you guys at your "new place" give her street directions to the nearest mental institute. make sure they know her by name and expect her visit. when she calls asking what happened, apologise saying you forgot to cancel your room when you checked out, but thought she might be able to make better use of it seeing she put you there in the first place so you kept it for her... doubtful she'll speak to you again, never mind trying to re-attach the umbilical cord.. mission accomplished.
2006-12-10 23:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say Dont accept her kindness anymore....confront her EVERY time it happens and force her to be real about what she is doing....Now there is no telling how she will react...she maay give up all contact...or cause a big drama....who knows....What price are you willing to pay?....Sounds annoying as hell to me....Toxic for SUre....
2006-12-10 23:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray that toxic people will be removed from your life, and especially ask that on Dec. 21st and Dec. 22nd for winter solstice.
GOD bless.
2006-12-10 23:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by May I help You? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband you need to cut the psychic energy vampire loose or she will destroy your marriage.
2006-12-10 23:31:54 · answer #6 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd love to hear her side of the story.
2006-12-10 23:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY AWAY FROM HER, DON'T VISIT OR INVITE HER OVER.
GOOD~LUCK ON THIS ONE.
2006-12-11 00:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~ISABELLA~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋