child abuse?

Question

hey all. I snuck outside last night and got busted by my dog. As expected I was to be punished but my dad took his belt off and said for me to lean over his lap and I refused. is getting whipped with a belt considered child abuse? I have never been whipped with a belt and it hurt like really really bad. as bad as to the point I shed a few tears.

Answer 1

Oh, sweetie, I am so sorry! That's awful. To answer your question, it depends what state you're in. Some states allow parents to use objects to discipline a child, and others don't. The severity of the punishment and any physical marks like bruising, laceration, etc. is likely also to be taken into account.

If this happens all the time and you're afraid to be at home, you should contact your state department of social services (usually called Department of Children and Families, DCF or Department of Children and Family Services, DCFS. )

If it's a one-time fluke and you're just curious about what it's classified as, I'd be careful about who you tell. Most states say that teachers, social workers, and even school counselors are mandated reporters, meaning that they have to report what you've told them, document it, contact DCF, and implement an investigation. That could cause internal family friction and some unintended consequences.

Most states have rules protecting confidential statements between a child and his/her attorney, so if you contacted a lawyer about your inquiry it is more likely that he/she not only wouldn't have to report it, but would be under an ethical obligation to not report it (but each state is different, so check first).

And, last but most important, if you feel you're being abused and/or want DCF to get involved, clearly, you should seek help from an adult--a teacher, social worker, or someone else that you can trust.

Answer 2

dude be a man seriously so u got belted so would i if i snuck out walk it off and dont get caught next time i think it could be considered as abuse but at the end of the day its that or care and i know whitch one id choose

Answer 3

First of all, it "hurt", because it's a spanking. It's supposed to hurt. Otherwise, what is the point of disciplining a child with it?

Second, you snuck out of the house! Honey, if I snuck out of my house and got caught, a belt would be the least of my worries.

Are you bruised? Do you have any broken bones? Are you still walking, living, breathing? Then it's not "child abuse".

Big wow, you shed a few tears... Doesn't mean your father is "mean" and "abusing you". Don't sneak out again.

Answer 4

Animal abuse is worse because toddlers have instructors and many different adults to search for suggestion from from. they have a voice that their choosing no longer to apply. at the same time as animals cant talk and maximum probable don't have any thanks to end it. A dogs cant walk right into a police station and document a rfile yet a baby can. they're both undesirable yet animal abuse is extra severe.

Answer 5

Did he leave a mark? any type of mark then no. yes he shouldn't have used his belt he could have really harmed you but you did do something wrong and you do have to understand that how old are you anyway? I think you should talk to your dad about this tell him you felt it was abuse because it really did hurt you but that you understand what you did was wrong ( because it was and you should ) but if next time he wouldn't use a belt but maybe his hand or ground you but not the belt.

Answer 6

Let me get this straight: you sneaked out of the house, your dad gave you a whipping for it, and you're wondering if HE did anything wrong? What's wrong with this picture, Pal? That's your dad--you know, the guy who raised you, protected you, tried to teach you right from wrong, provided your food, clothes, and a roof over your head...you ought to be finding ways to please him, not worrying about whether or not he is "abusing" you. At the very least, you ought to be respecting him as your father enought to never want him to have to worry about you again.

No, it's not child abuse unless you have multiple injuries or it was truly excessive. Letting kids get away with outrageous behavior (like sneaking out of the house) WOULD BE abuse. I really don't mean to rip on you, but the sooner you grow up and act like a responsible young man who can be trusted (as opposed to a disobedient child who has to be policed), the sooner you can stop worrying about what is and is not abuse. The more trust you build now, the more freedom you'll have later, and the better your teen years are going to be.

You're going to be an adult for most of your life. For now, while you're still growing up, why not make the best of it? Honor your father...find ways to make him proud of you, and do what he says. You'll never regret it if you do.

Answer 7

~It really does depend on the state. Do you really want to report it or use it as a tool to threaten your parents with? I say you deserved it and agree with this other answer...

"Go ahead and report them if you have the b@lls to be shipped off to a foster home and grow up pi$$ poor without your PlayStation and other things you take for granted. Until then, obey your folks and stop being a punk."

I was choked by my step dad and thrown on the stairs while my mother watched. I ran away and got thrown in a foster home. They didn't care what my step dad did.

I wasn't allowed to see my mom very much and didn't get back home for two years. Think about it. They only do this so that you make the right choices in life.~

Answer 8

walk like a man .talk like a man
a bit of a whipping wont kill you,
just dont get it too much or you might get to like it

I used to be beaten at school with a bamboo cane weighed down by a metal tip,which made it swish better,and this was official school punishment ,a lot worse than a belt.

maybe you did not tell us everything about why you maybe deserved this punishment

Answer 9

Although child abuse laws have changed since I was growing up, I had plenty of belts and switches used on me and probably could have used more if truth be told.

Answer 10

HE!! YES, getting whipped by a belt is child abuse.

there is no reason for a parent to whip a child with a belt....that is abuse abuse abuse!!!!