We were together almost 2 years and things were going fine until he went to c his parents. He comes back home from them and suddenly breaks up with me saying his parents aren't happy cause they dont like me (im not a big talker and they thought it was rude!). I wasn't a big talker when we got together so how is it a problem now? Also he wants to go overseas and wanted me to go too for 3-6mnths, now he wants to go by himself and for a year! I honestly dont believe this is what HE wants but his parents are pressuring him. Whenever I ask if it is what HE wants he always responds with 'its how it has to be'. I don't want to be broken up and I can tell by the look on his face and in his eyes that he doesn't either. He was also crying when we were talking about it. What should I do? I have talked to him and told him how I feel and that we can work it out but it's like someone is holding a gun to his head!
2006-12-10 15:13:22 · 10 answers · asked by Onie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either he is too immature to have a girlfriend or he is wanting out and blaming it on his parents. Either way, you need to move on. My husbands mother does not care for her daughters in law, but that never stopped these three guys from being our husbands. They made their own choices and their mother had to live with it. I am sorry to tell you this, but if he truly loves you the way he should, he would not let anything come between the two of you, not even mommy and daddy.
2006-12-10 15:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly painful to hear. Sounds like his parents have given him an ultimatum. You do not say your ages so I am assuming you are both of age to make your own decisions. Whatever the problem is with his parents
indeed affects you. Truly not understanding why they would use your quietness as an anchor against you. Feeling this goes further than that, I do believe your boyfriend knows the whole story behind all this and doesn't want to hurt you any further with it. Some parents
want their children not to be serious about anyone until
they have gotten further in education and maturity. I suggest you both keep in close contact if this is what you both want.
2006-12-10 15:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, are you dating my ex-husband???? This guy is not a grown-up who is his own self and own man. He is still too much their little boy and that problem with damage, strain, and maybe even destroy your relationship if you did get married. Do NOT bother with a man who is this controlled by his parents. If you were really a bad choice and his parents were just giving him their opinion he would consider it and break up on his own, not from pressure and then cry to you. RUN, girl, RUN!!!
See the book, "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo. It was a lifesaver for me after my divorce and when I was dating again.
2006-12-10 15:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by itsmeinin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run!!!
If he allows his parents to control his relationships, then he is a weak fool. Do you want a future with someone who will always do what his mother wants instead of following his heart? You deserve all the happiness in the world, not to be second to his mum. It may hurt now, but in years to come you will be glad.
2006-12-10 15:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by rel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats ill, his greater or much less a paedophile and you dont love one yet another your to youthful to comprehend what love is, his in simple terms utilising you for his ill desires. If I have been your mum and dad i might call the law enforcement officers on condition that "Matt" has technically raped you on condition that your under age and cant legally provide consent.
2016-10-05 03:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by matlock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen if he lets his parents control what he do and he is grown then girl he is not a man. because a man is not going to let anyone stop them from being happy. he has to stand up to them and tell them that this is what he wants and if they don't like it then to bad
2006-12-10 15:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wake up are you sure you want a mama boy for a boy friend its seem he still nursing love is understanding /trust / commitment /communication and the most important a stable relationship
2006-12-10 15:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know for sure.... and i know this isn't the answer you want to hear, but maybe you dont have the full story. maybe he had been thinking of breaking up with you for a while, and wanted to hur tyou as little as possible so he used his parents as an excuse... maybe you should talk to him.
2006-12-10 15:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he ain*t worth having !
2006-12-10 15:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by Barbie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can find better.
2006-12-10 15:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋