Probably not. My kids & I are flying east to spend Christmas with my brother & his family. Another brother & his wife are also flying east. We haven't had Christmas together in 13 years. Since my mom died 11yrs ago, we have spent EVERY Christmas with my in-laws. My hubbie can't get time off from work, so he is staying home & having Christmas with his family. The in-laws are upset/annoyed that my kids & I won't be here. What's with that?
2006-12-10 15:07:56 · 25 answers · asked by katie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since my mom died, we spend every holiday with the in-laws. Every single, blessed, solitary one!
2006-12-10 15:25:18 · update #1
Sidebar: My kids aren't little, they're 13 & 15
2006-12-10 15:29:59 · update #2
Thanks for all your support! I would like to choose all of you (well, most of you) as best answer, but I can only choose one.
2006-12-11 12:29:58 · update #3
They are being quite selfish if you ask me. They need to understand that you know they are attatched to the kids but you need this time to reconnect with your family. It isn't like you are taking the kids and disappearing forever. They obviously love you or they wouldn't care one way or the other but just talk to them. No matter what they say or what kind of grief they give you, go. Have fun and Merry Christmas!!!
2006-12-10 15:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by lilphill1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are your in-laws-you have a family to if they can't see that then -they will get over it and if they don't oh well-you can't be with them every holiday-you have to see your family to-if your husband is not worried about you and the kids going to your family for the holidays than what business is it of your in-laws-you married their son and not them-that is why they are called in-laws-you should never stay away from your family for that long-they are upset/annoyed because they want all of you and the kids time and attention and your family be dam-good go and let your kids meet the other side of their family-in-laws will get over it they are old enough and if they don't let then know that you have a family to and that they need to understand that-bottom line-no if ands or buts-have a happy holiday with your family
2006-12-10 23:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well most of the time its because grandparents love to be with their grandchildren on christmas. Everyone enjoys the surprising look on the children's face when they rip open a present from santa, mom, dad, grandma, etc. Your in-laws are just upset because you will not be spending time with them, now I do not know how your relationship with them are, but, if it is a great relationship then they should not be angry with you. It is not your fault that your husband cannot get off work, these things happen. Instead of being angry they should be rejoice to know that you all are very well healthy. I hope everything works out for you. By the way try to take pictures and send them to them, they may enjoy it. :) Merry Christmas!
2006-12-10 23:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They need to understand that you have a family too and I think it is selfish of them to try to keep you away from them. In this case I would not even try to make them happy. I do not get along with my in laws but I be fair to my husband and try to spend at least one holiday a year with them. If they are not satisfied with that then I say screw them.
2006-12-10 23:15:26 · answer #4 · answered by youngtendaz36104 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they must really like u, how fortunate u r...
Tell them the circumstances if they don't already know and
call them on Christmas to let them know how much u miss
being with them. Spend New Years day with them and did u
spend thanksgiving with them? Glad u finally will have time to
spend with ur siblings, since it's 11 years u saw them last.
2006-12-10 23:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh I hate the "who's gonna have u for Xmas game" I think you just need to go and have fun. You were with them every other time and they need to respect the fact that you want to have xmas with your fam as well. Enjoy your trip and FLY safe! Happy holidays!
2006-12-10 23:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Queen of Kings 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In-laws only make it difficult if you let them get under your skin. As if I had a lot for room to talk. Honey, do this for you, your kids, their cousins, and other family members who want all of you there and to H____ with the rest!
Enjoy and have fun!
2006-12-10 23:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by Here I Am 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, too bad for the in-laws.. Those kids have the right to see your side of the family also.
2006-12-10 23:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by maamu 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look at them an say THIRTEEN YEARS.... I haven't been with my family for 13 years... why can't I go with your blessings. It sounds like you husband doesn't have aproblem with you going, for you never mentioned him... so you need to get him in allience with you and have him speak to his family and put them in their place... my god... xmas can be any day... when you return you can get with them and do a little xmas party for your kids to be with them... and no in-laws are pains in the aS**S...
2006-12-10 23:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they will miss you and the kids how could they not. you
should see your family it has been 13 years why dint you invite everyone
over your house or maybe your in laws could invite them
to their house and they could get to know each other and
all of you would be together. nobody would be left out or hurt
that way.
2006-12-11 01:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by pinkie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋