Help me me and my ex are getting back 2gether this time we're "taking it slow" She calls me to see what is up

Question

me n my girl have been 2gether 4yrs after last mounth she broke it off. Then two wks later she wants back in. I open my heart n go back to were we left off. Then after coming back from a friends house she left me agian. Now after 2wks apart she calls n ask me for help, to keep her company. I go n we meet up we still are hanging out like a couple n i know she still cares for me. I play alittle hard2 get n she is in2 it. As am about to leave she is talking n i suddenly kiss her n tell her will she date me n this time lets take it slow, She agreed. after making out some more i ask how are we going 2 work this out she said "take it slow" I ask if sex was ok?"sex is ok" she said. she gets on the train n i tell her i love her she says the same thing, she calls me later that night to see what i am up2 n when we get off niether of us say "i love u" . Is this the first steps to taking it slow? how do i do this? I still love her. She told me we should not tell any1 for at least a wk?HELP me!

ok i dont think there is amy one ealse. When we were apart the 1st week i did not hear from her then i finally called her. I ask why? she said she felt differnt. She still wanted to be friends but we need to be apart for a while. I said fine. Two days later she calls me and tells me she was wonding if i could keep her company while she waits for her train to come. The rest of the week she calls me to see what is up. the night before she calls me and tells me she misses me and i acted like i was fine with it being over. and she said we'll talk about it when we meet. So after i get there we talk and we seem fine we talk about everthing. And out of nowhere i kiss her and i ask her to go out with me. she agrees and we both agreed to take it slow. She asked me what i wanted for xmas and what am i going to do this week end. she got on the train. she called me later that night. I am trying to give her space so i promised myself not to call till monday. Any addvice?? We never played games be4

She'll keep on calling me 2 see what i am up too. I havnt called her i want to see if she'll go out w/ me to night but i dont want to push this. What are the rules with taking it slow. Can i ask her tonight or should i wait till monday?

Answer 1

It's very, VERY rare that getting back together with an ex is a good idea. I mean, really, if you should be in a relationship, why did you break up in the first place? She seems like, in some way, she's jerking you around (and not in the good way). She's taking advantage of your willingness to keep the relationship going, and you shouldn't fall for it. As hard as it may be, you should probably move on.

Answer 2

All this breaking it off and getting it on don't sound too good to me! and she wants to keep it quite for a week? huh? why? sounds like somethings not quite right to me!! I went Though a similar thing a while ago now, and the reason he didn't want anyone to know was cos he had found someone else and was just using me...

'I love you' when she got on the train?? - why? How is that taking it slow? How long did it take you to tell her the first time that you love her?

If you two were really gonna give it another chance, like seriously another chance, you'd take it slow - that includes it all on the sex front! There's no chance if you go back into old habits! Once you start doing things the way they 'used to be' then you might hit some trouble, clearly there was something that didn't work and it ain't gonna work the second time round either.

To be honest, these things never work out....

*good luck* though, if you are ment to be you will be

Answer 3

I know it's painful, but she's just not worth your heart ache.
I promise you that she will leave you as soon as something "better" comes along. She just hasen't found it yet.... but she knows your not it.