Ladies...what can I do to get out of the "FRIEND ZONE."?

Question

I'm a senior in High School and there's this girl that I like. I asked her out to dinner last night and it went relatively well. I don't think there was one pause in conversation, it lasted more than an hour, but for some reason I get the feeling that she doesn't see me as possibly being more than a friend. Maybe that's my fault. We only touched at the end when we hugged and contact (I understand) is one of the important aspects of creating something. But what else can I do? How can I get out of the "friend zone" and into a relationship?

Additional details:

-We went to Sadies together (where the girl asks the guy).
-Over the summer her friends told me she thought I was hot.
-She's the 2nd hottest girl in the school.
-She broke up with her boyfriend two weeks ago.

Thanks in advance for the advice!

Answer 1

If she didn't like you as more than a friend, it probably isn't because of anything you did last night. She probably isn't interested in you, or she wasn't interested all along. My advice: Keep asking her out. If she keeps going, and things go well, then you probably have a chance. But the first time she stands you up without a REALLY REALLY good reason, then it's over. Beyond that, you're going to have to gauge her level of interest on your own. Cheer up! You aren't exactly in the friend zone yet. You will be when she explicitly tells you that she sees you as a friend or a brother or something to that effect. At that point it will be a lost cause. But for now, given this information, I think you should keep at it. Feel free to date other girls for now, because you don't really know if this one is seriously interested in you or not (she might be in it for the free meals or something). If she finds out about the other girls and objects, you should tell her that you didn't know that she liked you as more than a friend and that you would be OK with being exclusive with her. Good night!

Answer 2

OK, here it is, you are not going to get out of the friend zone with this chick. How do I know this, #1 you are asking how to on this answers page, #2, that fact that you had to tell everyone that she is the second hottest chick in school means that you are probly a nerd. Once again you are probly asking how I know this. When someone is describing a person they usually dont say that she is the hottest chick in school, and her friends said that she thought that you were hot and the fact that she just broke up with her boyfriend. Unless she is a tramp she is going to need sometime and when that time is up you wont be the first one on the list. You are her scapegoat, a guy friend that she wont have to worry about. Basically you are her gay friend. And dont feel bad about that, it happens. Best advice for you is to find someone in your leage. God speed.

Answer 3

first off you have to decide who you really like anddon't like! Then you have to start moving in and talking to that person. After a few tries start making moves and asking questions about her life and what she likes to do. Then after that ask her what her favorite place to eat is. I know this because I am a lady. Many guys are trying to hook up with me. You have to know the person really well before you try to become more than just a friend. After that try asking this person out to a small activity or something. If they don't reply then they are plane just not interested in you dude. But don't give up because there are tons of other girls longing for somene like you. You can't impress every girl in the world but you can try but i highly doubt you want to try. If you have friends ask them how they get hooked up with there girlfriends. After all you really need to get a hang of yourself. Don't suck up to the girls either. So try the tips I gave you and see what happens. Good luck and don't give up!

Answer 4

if it has just been one date then it is hard to tell after that...she could be really into you but she may be too shy to show that on the first date. Keep calling her (but dont stalk her that would just make her think you are a creep) and ask her out again and see how it goes that time.....maybe you should put a move on a kiss and if she rejects then it might not be worth pursuing any more!

Answer 5

Ok man,

I know exactly what you need to do to move from the "just a friend" zone to "potential boyfriend".

The answer is to flirt! This builds sexual attraction and will move you from the friend category to the boyfriend material category.

Don't be her proverbial tampon and let her gush her feelings and problems all over you either. That's what her girlfriends are for!

So to sum this up...this is the difference between friends, and boyfriends/girlfriends...flirting and attraction!

Now go get her! :)

Answer 6

Just ask her if she would be interested in being more than just friends. If you want to save face, say that you have been getting some vibes from her and you weren't really sure about them. From there she should let you know where you stand. If she says she just wants to be friends, leave it at that.

Answer 7

if she is a senior she may like but she just wants to get serious and take things slow. u should probably talk to her but make sure that if u cant have her as a girlfriend then u still want to be friends. it gives her a sense of security

Answer 8

okay first off....
the friends zone is a little tricky!

either your the friend thats totally hot and she wants to be with one day because your great friends and she already has that connection with you
OR
your the friend thats like a brother, and who wants to date their brother...
figure out which zone your in first...

then if your in that first one, send off hints that you wanna be with her... and kiss her on the check or hold her hand, start off slow, going to fast can ruin it too...

Answer 9

ask her out again and when it's done, give her a big smooch. Most girls would rather the guy make the first move.

Answer 10

ok, i'm not a girl, but in my opinon, if she seems to be avoiding it, don't push her. If you continue to ask her out, then you can build up to it, don't expect it to just happen. I'm sure that, in time, it'll work out. GL w/ that!