My sisters boyfriend was yelling at me, cursing me, name calling, putting me down. So of course I started doing the same. If a man was doing this to your girlfriend in front of you would you intervene??????
Or would you just let them two duke it out??
2006-12-10 14:50:33 · 25 answers · asked by Angelcupcake 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
just VERY verbal and VERY loud, NOT PHYSICAL
2006-12-10 14:59:53 · update #1
I think it would be best to let her defend herself and let him know that she's able to take care of herself. Otherwise, this guy will think that he can bully her when he catches her by herself. Now if he starts to become physically abusive, then yes - the boyfriend should definitely step in and defend her. There is no excuse for putting your hands on someone in that way - man or woman.
2006-12-10 14:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by doodlebugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before it becomes a dangerous problem that can never be fixed---someone has to walk away----quickly. Defuse the situation . I don't know what caused it or what it was about, but someone better move away and give it some time to simmer down. Sounds like a no win situation that wasn't going to just get better. Hope you can talk it over quietly or just forget about it. The word is maturity---if you both are mature then you know what to do---be sane about it. If the yelling starts up again then someone is immature and can't be dealt with. Violence is never an answer, dignity is the better part of winning---walk away and cool off. There is no real winner in a situation like this. I can't comment on anymore because I have no idea if alcohol was involved, or if it is just bad blood that will never be fixed. Good luck
2006-12-10 23:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the situation, is it one of those situations where the guy and girl have a history (not necisarrily romantic) my friend and fiance get in full on yelling arguments, its between them, i know that she is not always wrong, why would i get involved, thats them, on the other hand if i did not know the guy id be getting involved, but my friend is harmless, and she picks fights, does the sisters boyfriend have a violent nature, if not, then your boyfriend does not need to intervene, are you a dainty little girl or are you a modern woman?
2006-12-12 22:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by zorro1701e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should. NO ONE,and I mean NO ONE has the right to humiliate another person. That goes for the screaming, too! This usually shows the intelligence of the screamer(little). Your boyfriend should tell the other person to Be quiet and mean it. Then you should both leave before a confrontation starts.
2006-12-11 01:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the man and if I knew the circumstances behind it, but most likely yes, I would intervene. If I was positivie it wouldn't escalate, it might be better for them to "get it out." That said, even if that were the case, I wouldn't let it go on for too long.
2006-12-10 22:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by volleyjacket 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They should most defently step in and take over the situation and make it clear not to talk to you that way or else.... No man needs to talk to any women in the wrong way, so they sometimes need to get what they deserve if you know what I mean. Hope this helps. I know if I was in that situation my fiance would step in faster than I would been able to say a word back to the other man.
2006-12-10 22:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say "of course I started doing the same". There's no of course about that. Just because someone else is acting like an idiot doesn't mean you should. If someone ever raises their voice to you, you should ask them to calm down (nicely!) and if they don't you should remove yourself from the situation. If someone was yelling at someone close to me, I would probably suggest we leave.
2006-12-10 22:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by cb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 9 years ago we had these crack head neighbors in our little ghetto apt building and the guy was outside screaming at his girlfriend and raising his fist to hit her, my boyfriend and his friend ran outside to stop it and wrestled the guy to the ground and told him to knock it off or they would kick his ***. They never fought in public anymore, and we didn;t hear anything from their apt either. I know that isn;t exactly what you are asking, but I think that when anyone is being physically or verbally abused that someone should step in.
2006-12-10 22:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. I think my man would just let it be because a) he knows I can look after myself and b) it'd be kind of entertaining. Generally, though, I think if someone's being attacked and they didn't deserve it, their partner should at least try and defend them, irrespective of gender. It shows support and respect for your partner.
2006-12-10 23:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by The Mad Shillelagh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely intervene. No one should have to deal with such nonsense... and personally, I question what is wrong with your sister for not putting her boyfriend in his place. NO ONE talks to my family like that. Blood is blood, man!
2006-12-10 22:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by fragglerockqueen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋