How do you get a child who is almost 4 to quit using bad language and to calm his temper?

Answer 1

Stop serving him whiskey.

Answer 2

I know this is not going to win best answer but I will tell you this.When I was 3,I was a disciplinary nightmare.I threw tantrums,swore at my mom,and was a little horror show.Guess what happened??? My dad came home from a tour of duty with the U.S. Navy and when he saw me perform one of my little fits do you know what he did? He spanked me until my bottom was red.Guess what??? It worked. I stopped being an insolent little brat.And before all you liberals get your danders up,no I was not an abused child.Quite the contrary,I was spoiled growing up.And I turned out pretty ok.I have seen quite a few children out there who could use a spanking.But that is no longer accepable in our society because big brother is watching you every minute,especially with your children.Dont get me wrong,I am certainly not advocating child abuse but as far as I am concerned there are a lot of kids who could use or should have been spanked a long time ago.

Answer 3

Fill the bottom of a clear jar with coins (I put five dollars in dimes in my five year olds). Every time a swear word leaves your child's mouth, deduct a certain amount from the jar. The amount should be pertinent to the offense (crap should not warrant as big a withdrawl as f***, obviously). On the flip side, each time anyone else in the house uses a swear word, they must add to the jar. Set a time limit (2 weeks works well), and then cash in the change, letting your child spend it however they choose. The Dollar Store is like toy mecca for kids of that age.

Answer 4

You need to model the language for him. Where is he getting it from? You need to figure that out first. If he were a little older he could understand that sometimes he will hear language that's inappropriate but that doesn't mean he's allowed to use it, but that would be lost on him at 4. As far as his temper, I would say patience... show him how he should respond to something that's made him angry. And stick to your guns, no is no. If he has a temper tantrum over that and you give in, it will only get worse. Good luck.

Answer 5

Explain to your son that curse words are for adults to use, and adults only, just like the telephone, your bedroom, Knives and any other grown ups only things in your home. Explain that just as his things are for him and you don't use them (like shoes or something) bad language is for you, and his father and other adults. Also, listen to yourself, do you use foul language in evey day conversation? if so, try to curb your own tongue as well. As far as the temper thing, you might not like this answer but you should ignore him, he may just be looking for attention, and as long as he is not endangering himself or others, let him have his fit. Give him a place to vent, My son has to go to his room and there he can be as loud and mad as he wants, and when he calms down he can come out, and thats a decision that I let him make. Also, again, lead by example, if you or his father have rage issues, you may want ot work on your own tempers as well, bacause you are your childs first teacher, and what he has learned so far has been taught by you. Good luck.

Answer 6

First try to find out from where is he learning it. Restrict him from going to those places or mix with those people. Or he could be learning it from tv. If this is the case dont let him see those programs anymore.Family membersd ahould not use any slang words in front of the kid. Kids learn a lot from the family and we all know that kids like to copy the elders.

About temper I think scolding does not really help. I would say try to communicate with the kid. Talk with him a lot. Encourage nice behaviour. Tell him that people like them who r nice. I have seen that my niece(who is 3 years old) acts very angry with her parents but when i talk with her and try to make her understand that why she should not do what she is doing i found out that she does understand.

Answer 7

Stop using bad language around him and calm your temper.

Answer 8

do not use bad language in front of him, he has learned it, most children that age will use bad words because they get a response from you, they do not even know what these words mean. it helps if the parents are even tempered and calm in the house

Answer 9

my 2 and a half year old daughter picked the "F" word up after spending a weekend at the inlaws house and i was not impressed..to start off with i was telling her to stop saying it and telling her it was wronge but that fell on deaf ears, my next attemp was to simply just ignore it and sure enough that worked..i soon learnt that all the swearing and tantrums was just for a little extra attention as soon as i stoped reacting to the language and tempers she soon realised that she wasnt getting anything from it and it all stopped...so maybe try that...goodluck

Answer 10

You have to have consistent discipline and self-discipline. No bad language by anyone! Calming his temper comes through consistently never giving in, but rewarding good behavior when it happens. let him know how much you appreciate it when he is cooperative. Give him something special when he is especially good. Don't take good behavior for granted. Remember to say thanks and will learn to say it too.

Answer 11

My son had the same problem. His temper has gotten better as he has gotten older. I finally had to succumb to not swearing around him and be more consistent in my discipline when he swore. I also explained to him how he would get in trouble in school if he swore and unfortunately he found ou the hard way ONE time only at school and has been great about it ever since. Good luck.