My boyfriend loves kids.. we also have intercourse.. and no doubt we using condom, still, everytime he will pray hard that i'll get pregnant and we can get married.. im stress with that.
2006-12-10 14:32:33 · 16 answers · asked by Its me! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shall i be happy for having such a boyfriend? or.. shld i just grant his wish.. or.. shall i leave him?
2006-12-10 14:33:38 · update #1
I agree with the first post above....don sleep with him if this is omething he wants to happen and you dont. I mean a child is a VERY big responsibility and you will be the person minding this child dont forget....he may say things now but this will change if a child is born...believe you me. I had a g/f who also desperately wanted kids...I caught her even tampering with the condoms so that they would fail and she would get pregnant.....I did not want this so I left. If you do not want marriage or children right now then tell him you want to wait...if he loves you he will understand and also wait...if he does not want to wait then it is obvious that you must leave him......
I hope this helps.....
2006-12-10 14:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Neil M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Respect your own feelings and discuss it with him. You respect his feelings, and that's great. But this is YOUR life and you're not going to get what you want out of it by trying to make everyone else happy.
Explain to him that you don't want children and that his extreem eagerness is stressing you out.
You're not wrong to feel the way you do and he's not wrong to feel the way he does. Betraying your feelings to make him happy, especialy with something like children and marrage is very dangerous. If you did, as time passed, you would probably start to resent him and that's no way to exist in a marrage or to raise children.
If he cannot accept that, you might both be better off if you went your own ways and looked for someone who was more inclined towards your own desires.
If you don't want kids but still wish to continue having sexual relationships with anyone, get on the pill. Condoms have a marked failure rate and are only 75% effective. The Pill is 99%.
Also, this is the 21 Century, Neil, she wouldn't nessicarily have to be the person minding the children.
2006-12-10 22:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by socialdeevolution 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready to be a mother, stop having sex. Period. There is no such thing as birth control that is 100 percent effective. Everything but abstinence has a failure rate, so you're playing Russian Roulette with a kid's life.
2006-12-10 22:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of your question you are young and not married and certainly not ready to be a mother.
Do you really think if he gets you pregnant he will be around for the next 21 years helping you raise these kids he loves so much?
I don't think so.....move away from this guy.
2006-12-10 22:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready to have a baby than yes i would just get pregnant and have a baby with him.. you are lucky to have a man that wants a baby... most men dont.. if you love him go for it i would not to many guys are into kids you've got one in a million there/
2006-12-10 22:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel the same way, you need to stop what you're doing and tell him. You obviously don't want to have kids right now, and if he's not alright with that... well, you'll probably just need to find someone else that has your interests at heart as well.
2006-12-10 22:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by dimkaluv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it's bothering you to the point where you're stressed about it.
Deep-down your just not ready to make a family with him.
So all I can say is listen to you're instincs.
Tell him to back off.
If he's a good boyfriend he'll back off for you.
2006-12-10 22:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds real strange. Try to get the condoms with spermicide. Also, if you are not on pills they have spermicide inserts you can use probably without him knowing.
2006-12-10 22:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Valerena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep using those condom
maybe imagine and only pray if you want to and if it isn't painful
maybe you are already pregnant and the condom won't be any help then
2006-12-10 22:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt have sex with him anymore unless you are willing to get pregnant, I would also suggest you get on the pill as condoms break alot,
2006-12-10 22:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋