I'm really scared, how can i not be???

Question

My grandmother was diagnosed with cancer and it could be heretitary, plus they can't tell if its terminal. I'm scared. What if i get it or my grandmother dies? How can I not be scared?

i cant research it, i dont have enough information. plus, her father has cancer but a different type. I lost my aunt to cancer, now her?

Answer 1

First of all, I'm sorry to hear this news.

Secondly... I know that this can be a very scary, confusing time. But I'd like to offer you some words of reassurance.

Cancer is not a death sentence. It is, in early stages, very treatable. Even later-stage cancers can be treated successfully in some cases. It all depends on the type of cancer or tumor (breast, lung, colon, brain, for example), and how advanced it is.

The best thing that you can do is to take it one day at a time right now, until you find out more details. Spend as much time with your grandmother as possible... she is still very much alive, and that isn't necessarily going to change just because she has cancer. She is probably scared right now too, and the best thing that you can do for her is to spend time with her and help get her mind off of the situation. (And maybe yours, too!)

As for the hereditary concern, that isn't something that you should worry about too much right now. You don't know for a fact that it is hereditary, and even if it is, that doesn't mean you'll get it. Some cancers are environmental, meaning they are caused by lifestyle and surroundings. Some cancers are, yes, hereditary. But that isn't a guarantee... it's just a slightly greater risk factor.

The best thing you can do right now is to ease your mind about it. Be glad, and feel blessed, that you don't have cancer, and realize that worrying isn't going to change anything. It might help to start actively trying to live a healthier lifestyle... dietary changes, exercising regularly, taking a multivitamin; those are all good ways to reassure yourself that you are taking the best care of your body possible. It's not a cancer-proof guarantee, of course, but it might help ease your mind to feel as if you're doing something "tangible" to better your health.

Please try not to worry about your grandmother or yourself. My grandmother always says that "worry is the work of the devil." :)

And just remember, there are many, many cancer survivors out there... lots of folks on this board, for example. Just remember that it is not necessarily a death sentence.

I wish the best for both you and your grandmother. :)

Answer 2

How can you not be is right. Just the word cancer is scary. Just try to put things into perspective. There are few certainties in life, one of which is that we all die. When cancer is involved, it brings us much closer to that reality. Give it the respect it deserves. Pray for your grandmother first. Don't worry about what hasn't even happened yet. Research this type of cancer and arm yourself with every weapon you can get your hands on.
The power of prayer is amazing. You may be surprised. It may very well be too late for your grandmother (maybe not) but it isn't too late for you. Take every step possible to prevent that type of cancer from claiming another victim. Good Luck!

Answer 3

I'm a 25 year old cancer survivor. Cancer is scary but so are many things in life. Learn about the cancer your grandmother has. If you know the early symptoms and you get regular checkups, you're chances of catching a disease early increases.

Best of luck to your grandmother

Answer 4

Whether or not your grandmother will die is something you have no control over; you must say, "I put it in the hands of God." As for your fear of heredity: almost EVERYONE has AT LEAST one relative who has or has had cancer. Cancer and heart disease are the big killers in this country. Devote yourself to a healthy lifestyle; there are so many things you can do to prevent developing cancer. The Zone diet is known for preventing cancer as well as many other diseases. Look on www.zonediet.com. Consume plenty of anti-oxidants; the best source is ACAI JUICE. Bossa Nova brand is delicious. EVEN IF A DISEASE IS "HEREDITARY," THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE GOING TO GET IT. You are becoming anxious. Do yoga; its great for anxiety, AND for your immune system & all your organs...

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother, I lost all mine to cancer, but you know what I accually died on feb.6, 2005 during brain surgery from an auto wreck. You always hear that theres a light at the end of the tunnel, it's not true, don't get me wrong it was bright but all I saw was my family I wasn't ready to go, but if you beleive inGod there's no worrys he didnt want my *** around him yet so he sent me back, you have nothing to worry about its ok and if your getting to the point of having panic attacks about it see a doctor relax, and seriously start eating organic foods you'll feel so much better shop at whole foods you'll be amazed

Answer 6

1)u need to obtain the exact diagnosis by asking her medical docs, get also the international WHO (world health organisation) classification of tumor - it s gonna be like T4 C1 etc read about WHO tumor classifications on internet. in this sheet u get from med docs there will be written that international classification of her tumor. Read more about it on internet. For Example a T1 tumor is a light, beginning one. T4 is bad, that 's infiltration into neighbour areas, means low chance to survive it. Anyway, even she gets surgery, she has to survive for 7 years. After this time a person is considered as healthy, when she survived. She should do the exact treatment what doc's say. If she is smoker or drinker, to stop it immidiately. And she should try to be positive (even sarcasm in that situation) because she needs to straithten her immune systema. Also regular walks on fresh air, like fast going daily 30 minuts.
2) u should read about special diaet for her type of cancer, lots on internet. google name of her tumor and biological cancer defence diaet - that should work
3) don't give up. Don't pay money to some charlatans, who promisse to make her healthy.
4) for yourself, go to a doc after u know the special tumor of your grand mother. Make a check up. if mamma carzinoma - make mammography. Also if u plan to have a child - u should feed it with your mother milk, that makes the risk lower to get breast cancer. But there is a gene indeed, so u need to know facts. And try to live healthy. Don't smoke, refuse staying with smokers in one room, try to eat fresh food, prepare it yourself and dark flour products, best is spelt-bread. I don 't know where u live, we have it in Germany. do moderate sports. to much sports kills immune systema. well and be happy, have lots of love around, dump a bad bf - instead of having pain for year. understood? wish u lots of luck !!

Answer 7

If you continue to worry about everything you will add stress to your life and stress does not help your health. Get all your regular checkups, pap tests, mammograms, etc. and if you do that, even if it happens, you will be caught early. A positive attitude is a much better way to go through life.

Answer 8

Stop, calm down, alot of folks ancestors died of cancers and they never got it.
Try to heal your grandma by bringing her fruits, carrots, celery,vitamins. .
It is best your grandma get a second opinion before lettin docs give her all that radiation.
Pray for her , a prayer could heal her overnight.
So what if granny dies, she goes to Paradise which is a better place than Earth.

Answer 9

Just take extra good care of your health in the years to come. Eat right, take vitamins, and exercise. Your grandmother needs you to be strong for her and she wouldn't want you to be scared no matter what happens.

Answer 10

People used to be scared of a sneeze since they did not undrstand it. They say God bless you since it is a demon trying to posess you not getting dust ot of the nose. Cancer is only 5% hereditory. See wepage below so you can understand it.

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